We moved 2500 miles in June to take care of mother in law she is manipulative, mean (but not to people who baby her and tell her what she wants to hear and do what she demands when she demands) and a narcissist. She recently fell and broke her leg above the knee, the hospital is saying she can only stay in rehab upon discharge for 84 days as that all Medicare will pay for. She gave up part b 24 yers ago, so she’s private pay. Most of the skilled nursing homes here won’t take her again since she owes so many of them thousands of dollars and refuses to pay even a little. She squanders her money on supplements and can’t afford caregivers anymore, or they won’t work for her since she falsely accuses to eps, that they are abusing her etc.
She pulled that with us said if we don’t treat her like a queen and do what she wants when she wants she’ll report us for neglect. We’ve already contacted eps and senior services and they know, we got cameras as suggested to cover our butts. They are saying we have to take care of her after her time runs out at rehab, she can only walk to chair and commode in living room about three feet with walker before she fell. We have told both social workers there is no way we can take care of her if she can’t walk , the hospital social worker says we have to. We don’t know what we can do, feel bullied and lost. Mother in law is so demanding we’d never be able to sleep as she changes depends when she barely gets a dribble and it would be worse if she’s bed bound. And will be wheelchair bound. My husband and I have back problems so that isn’t an option to do it if she can’t walk.
Sorry if this is hard to understand just overwhelmed right now may not be best question or explanation.