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correction to my last answer: It should read when the EVENT occurs.
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Re: the clothes and bathing issues: During the morning,I have prepared written notes such as: "I promise to let you help me into the shower today. signed______" or, "I must remove all my clothes before putting on my pajamas at night. I promise not to fight or complain. signed_______", or "You are taking me today to get my nails done {or haircut}.signed________ ". My wife then readily signs her name. I present these notes to her (and helps her read them) when the even occurs. This continues to work favorably. Not a clue why, but it works.
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My mother is like that too. She will only wear blouses, slacks and a blazer, only black and brown or blue. (nothing pullover, no sweaters, no casual - thanks Mom - I just love to iron your clothes when I don't even iron my own!) And she would wear the same thing for a week, filthy. She won't wear any of the new clothes we give her. Once a week I removed all her dirty ragged clothes, made her take off what she had on, saying I would take it home and wash it. Of course she would protest, but I insisted and rotated her blazers or she would wear one until it fell apart. Bathing was a thing of the past also. I would never eat or drink out of her apartment, used rubber gloves to empty waste baskets, etc. She was becoming filthy and didn't care. We put her in AL two weeks ago and they are still working on her to take a shower! She flatly refuses.
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I have started to have some issues with my mom abut clothes. I take her shopping ( really difficult because she can't remember what she already tried on), and then she wears the same old stuff. She keeps saying that she can't go out in winter because she doesn't have warm clothes--but she does: boots, sweater, jacket.

One way to stop this would be to just put the new clothes in the closet when she is not in her room and then slowly remove the old ones. If her memory is as bad as my mom's, she won't notice. Also, keep the number of clothes down. My mom had pile of stuff she didn't need, most of which is now in my garage.
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This is a big challenge for me with my mom as well. She doesn't care about bathing or having her clothes washed. Very frustrating. So I pick my battleS but I guess this is very common
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My mother was the same way, until she went to the NH. Surprise, surprise. People actually bathe and change their clothes.
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Actually, this is pretty common in the elderly, they find a favorite, comfortable outfit and just about live in it. Try to find an identical set of clothes so she can switch off during laundry.
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