She's not changing her dippers, burns food when cooking, she doesn't take a bath regularly and she has a dog that does his business everywhere around the house, dog is not trained. She has been living on her own home since I have been with my husband (27 years) but now it is obvious she cannot live on her own. I have a feeling she is at the beginning stage of dementia. She has three sons altogether, one lives in PR very close to her house, the other lives in MI and my husband and I in FL. The son that lives near her doesn't want her living with him because of the dog. She doesn't like MI because of the weather and that leaves us in FL. I don't want her living with us. She is a very difficult person to begin with, we have not always gotten along when she has stayed with us temporarily in the past. Also for some reason my husband and I tend to fight more when she is around. Back in January 2018 she came to visit and my husband made her stay with us for 6 months. She wanted to leave after 3 months but he managed to keep her for 6. We took her back in June because her other son said she could live with him, however when we got there he backed down due to the dog and she had to go stay with her sister in her sister's son's house. Now she tells my husband she wants to come back. But I don't want her to come back. My husband and I both work full time and long hours. My house is only about 1600 sqf and has three bedrooms and two baths. I work from home two days a week and will possibly be working from permanently. We have a daughter that is getting ready to go to college but will most likely have to stay home instead of in school due to the dorms being really expensive. The other room I use as an office. So we really don't have the space to bring in an adult with a dog. I have given my husband lots of options, but in his mind the only option is his mom moving in. The option I proposed are: she stays in PR and we hire home health care for her (which is a lot more affordable there than in the states), we can also look for assisted living facility in PR. She can move in with her son in MI, he offered and even said he has the perfect set up for her in their basement which is an apartment with a private bathroom, also her son in MI doesn't work so could care for her. Another options is bringing her to FL but to live in an assisted living facility. The options are many. I don't want to take on the responsibility of taking care for an elder that I feel needs professional assistance. My husband said that if I cannot accept his mom in our home than he will have to move to PR to take care of her, he says he cannot abandon her because she is his mom, so he wants to do what she did when she was younger, she left her husband in NY and moved to PR to care for her mom although she had two other sisters and ended up divorcing the husband because he found someone else after waiting on her to come to her family. I don't want my marriage to end this way. We have a good one but I feel that if she moves in we will end up in divorce and probably full of resentment toward one another. I am willing to accept her in my house, without the dog and if the we can hire a fulltime caretaker for her. But that is another problem because facilities in FL are very expensive and so are home health care companies. I proposed either selling or renting her house in PR as well are her car but it seems her other two sons are opposed. I feel bad because my husband was very special with my mom and wonderful with my dad who is still alive and thank God is able to care for himself. But I can't and don't want to be responsible for his mom. Please help!