My mother is 95 years old she has been living with us for 2.5 years....before she moved in she lived with my half sister for ever..........who used all her and my stepfathers pension and social security for her own use........they lost their home because she would not pay the mortgage for 2 years and finally they got evicted..........the house was trashed....garbage and cat litter all over the floors........while she just got screwed up on drugs and booze.......they moved to a 2 bedroom apartment 5 years ago............which was not any better......the apartment was a mess and my sister was always screwed up....but when we talked mom she would always say everything is going good............always lied for her...even after she and her son spent all there money......and she still worships the ground my sister lives on............When we got her she had 0 dollars in the back and all her credit cards was maxed out...........from my sister and her son............so when she moved in to our home, the bill collectors would not stop until they were payed...........Since she has been living with all she talks about is my sister and her grandson how she misses them........they took all her and her husbands money..............all she says to us is with food and roof over my head and I am happy............The first year all I did is take her to the doctors because she was a mess...........all i got to enjoy was the trash that came with her..............my husband has just retired and he wants our sanity back................please help
Time to place Mom in a nice Nursing facility with Medicaid paying for her care. Her SS and any pension will be needed to offset the cost.
Hopefully you didn't pay her debt. If you did, all of her money should be going to you untitled she leaves or pays you in full.
You can I believe have her evicted, but honestly the best bet is to next time she has a health concern, have her taken to the ER, and then leave her there, telling the hospital social worker that you can no longer care for her, and that she CANNOT come back to your house.(it's called an ER dump)
Are any of you moms POA? If you are, depending how it's written, you may be able to use that to have her placed in the appropriate facility. Otherwise just let her go back to live with your druggie sister and her son, since she prefers them anyways. And then wash your hands of her once and for all. Your husband deserves to be able to enjoy his retirement.