I do, but he refuses. Do I have any rights to my mother say if my brother, the POA wants to put her in a nursing home? My daughter is her caregiver but is only there during the day. She is all alone at night because my brother refuses to pay someone. She can be in her home but needs more care. My brother refuses to do safety upgrades to the home as well and has said many times it would be easier if something major happened to her so he could put her in a nursing home. He is himself on the autism spectrum per my cousin's son who is a psychiatrist so reasoning with him can be impossible.
I realize that your Mother has dementia, and if it is at a stage where she cannot understand a legal document, then the Power of Attorney cannot change.
The only step you can take is Guardianship in order to represent your Mother. https://www.agingcare.com/articles/how-to-get-guardianship-of-elderly-parents-140693.htm
If your mom's house isn't safe because he won't pay for upgrades, wouldn't it be a good idea to look into another living situation for her? Nursing homes aren't the only option anymore. There are independent senior living facilities, assisted living facilities, and places specifically for people who have memory care problems. She might be better off in a place with more supports that has been designed for the elderly.
I am my moms POA and I don't get to decide who is next (in case something happens to me). next in line is my sister. then after her, my husband is listed.
does brother have copies of POA and would allow you to see?
wally003 I have the copy of the POA and it states that it cannot go to a family member if something happens to him. It's very weird.
freqflyer thank you for that suggestion. I will check into that.