The Narc mother is sane and the narc sister did a fight and flight and moved out of state. She wanted to buy another home for herself and her 3 adult kids but my mother said no. she asked 4 times, after that she decided to tell her to do a POA and healthcare proxy. Now she has legal rights over her monies. I was left out of the process. I have my own health issues and memory loss due to health issues. How do I revoke the POA and Proxy.
Yes, be glad you were not made POA.
If you think your Mom changed her PoA while she didn't have legal capacity to do so, then you need to take your evidence to a certified elder law attorney (who you will need to pay) and the attorney will review it to see if you have a case (at all) and one that may be winnable. A fight over guardianship of your Mom may ensue. Again, this is expensive, time consuming and stressful -- none of what you need in order to protect your own health.
If your concern is really an inheritance issue... you can report your sister to APS for financial abuse but you'd better have actual evidence.
I wish you better health and peace in your heart as you ponder your role in all of this.
If your mother were to revoke your sister's POA and healthcare proxy, as you want, what is it you suggest instead to help your mother handle her affairs as she ages and potentially becomes more infirm?