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My mother said I was fired because I didn't believe in God because my brother and dad dropped me off and my mom and dad had a disagreement. I didn't hear it but apparently something was said about religion anyways I was outside but I told her I don't control what other people say she said because I was associating with them. She can't forgive me, my mom and stepdad have made my life very stressful it's not funny, she wanted to pay me a holiday and sick days check because I worked every holiday and sick day no matter what! I told her to hang on to it! I was crying and very upset. Any advice!

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You might want to think about getting a PPO against the meddler who thought she was qualified to give advice on medicine to keep her from interfering with your mother's heath care.
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I found out one of my Moms friends told her it was okay to try and go off her medication this women is religious seven day Adventist I finally found out where my Mom hid her medications she still would not take her medication, till she spoke to her friend so I cleaned my Mom up and drove down to this lady's house I ask her where does it say in the bible you can not take medication I was so mad but kept my cool she started to throw this bullshit bible crap the way she interpreted it and I said my Mom is very sick look at her, you see my Mom she is practically falling over and peeing herself she changed her tune right then and there I gave my Mom her medications I had them with me and some pudding and boost! what a week not funny I wrote letters to the doctors my Mom's and step dads phone social worker, slept beside my Mom last night helping her to the washroom and she wanted me there with her because she thinks she's going to hell so much is going on too long of a story now next week case manager is coming in! Thank God!!
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People with degenerative brain diseases will say all kinds of things they would not if they were well. As caregivers, we have to let it go as if it never happened. This is very hard to do. It is a learned skill.

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What kind of life do you want for yourself?
Is the way it is today going to give you that life?

You have to go build your own life and then live it.

You can contact your local agency on aging (just google it), and get a social worker in the house to do an assessment. If step-dad isn't able or willing to do cares, then mom needs to be placed in a dementia care residence.
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Yes but I also forgot to mention she went off her medication and I ask my step dad if he knew about this he said no?? I told him she will get very sick! He just shrugged his shoulders and said it's her choice?
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I checked some of your previous posts and now remember the situation in which there were stinging insects in the home. I see that there also have been issues with inappropriate behavior by your step father.

It seems there are a lot of conflicts occurring during the same time you're trying to take care of your mother. This doesn't sound like a good environment at all.

Perhaps being "fired" is the best thing that can happen because it gives you an opportunity (also sometimes referred to as a "kick in the butt") to move on with your own life, at least more so than seems to exist now.

I think the environment in the house seems toxic, whether b/c of the stepfather or your mother or their interaction. But I would see it as (a) an opportunity (b) and (b) early warning sign that it's time to refocus on your own life

If your mother reaches the point that she really needs care, she'll contact you. Until then, how can it hurt to rebuild your own life?
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I would just say okay and go on with my day. Either she will come around or she won't. You are a separate person and can pull yourself out of their fray. Was the money important for you to pay your bills? If it was, you may be wanting to look for some extra work to tide you over.
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