Ever since my Dad passed away in 2000 my Mother is one hateful person. She brings my 24 yr old daughter to tears every time they speak. She feel she is the queen of all knowing to everyone even in the community. It’s her way or the highway. Over 10 years ago my daughter changed the color of her hair from blonde to brown. My Mother has been relentless criticizing her every moment of her life of it even though Mom colors her hair blonde. She nags at my daughter and 30 yr old son to get married, have kids, buy a house, etc. etc. When I phone her I find myself regretting it within 10 seconds after she begins complaining about how she is the victim of something. She gets in everyone’s face in the community from car repairs, hearing aide people, bank tellers, grocery store workers to even a sewing machine repair man who threw her out of his store - he was in his 80’s. She will get in anyone’s face but mainly men seeming to get some high from getting them worked up and P O’d. My sister came back after being gone for over 40+ years since her teens. She has married 4 different men fom drunks to the present one 20 yrs older and close to 90. She embezzeled from a small company with investors she was part owner in and has been in hiding most of her life not working for the past 30+ years. She decided to waltz back into my Mom and I’s life acting like she was here to save the day and take care of Mom in her final years. My sister is a materialistic type person with picture perfect home funishings, expensive clocks, diamonds, etc. - no kids. I always dreaded the day Mom would pass as I knew my sister would pony up to the bar causing me all kinds of grief. Well, that day came early. See my Dad worked hard to buy a small farm and build a modest home. I worked that farm night and day while growing up and going to college at home. It meant something to me and not my sister. Dad’s last words to me while in Hospice was “Hang onto the farm as long as you can, son.” He passed the next day - New Years Eve 2000. My sister is now causing all kinds of problems demanding for the Will to be changed. She basically is influencing heavily Mom. Mom wants my sister to be there to take care of her even though I have tried. I am 60 my sister 64. I have had it with my sisters demands and told her the will and farm deeds have nothing to do with my sister or myself. It was Dad’s last earthly wished and I intend to respect them. I did not have any idea what the will said nor cared until my sister got Mom stirred up. Seems Dad left me about 80% of everything already deeded in my name including the house. I offered to make it 50-50 thinking this was fair. Seems not good enough for my sister as she is demanding more. We all 3 even ended up in Mom’s attorney’s office when Sis made more demands and I finally said no more and haven’t spoke to her since. I asked Mom over for Thanksgiving dining today and my sister stuck her nose in things and got Mom to refuse after first agreeing that would be nice. Now it seems Mom has taken sides with my sister since she spends most of her time at Mom’s as she doesn't get along with husband number 4 - 90 yr old Ted. This is tearing me up as I am trying to balance everyone’s feelings from both my grown children, my wife and Mom. I must finally stand up to my older sister and mean Mom. No one can talk to Mom not even my kids. We all love her but with my sister in the picture the devil has a hold of her. I have hired an attorney and he has advised me not to do any of what my sister is demanding. Just tearing me apart to be at this point in my life as our family was disfunctional for the most part. My sister even came back while Dad was on his death bed and accused him of sexual abuse. Frankly growing up I don’t recall anything close to that occuring. Strange she would come back after being gone 35 years if your Father had abused you. She tried to get me to sell the farm during that time even before Dad had passed. Help? I don’t believe anyone can help but I am all ears.