My mom's dementia keeps her from understanding she needs to sign the forms the tax preparer mailed her. Any suggestions?

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She has had this one CPA prepare her tax forms for a number of years now. This year I managed, with some difficulty, to convince her to go to the preparer's office, with the W-2/1099 forms (pension, Social Security, etc.) The completed tax forms came in yesterday's mail, for her to sign and return to the preparer for electronic filing. I am having trouble getting her to understand the simple fact that she has to sign the forms and return them by next Tuesday [today's date, April 10, Wednesday].

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If you have POA you can sign it. Sign your name with POA after your name. I do this with my nephew. Check with ur preparer.
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Denouement: I had been in contact with my sister by text messages. I told our Mom one of her messages: The IRS could sue her. She relented and agreed to sign the papers as long as I would have her go with me back to the tax preparer's office. So we went; Mom signed the papers there...hey, I just wanted to get her to sign the papers, whatever it takes, within reason.
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I have not as yet been able to achieve Power of Attorney. Long story. Today I intend to tell her that if she just uses the stamp on the forms I will personally take the forms to the preparer's office, rather than mailing them.
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Let the POA sign. I don't think my Mom would have ever followed a request for her to sign something. Can't you just sign it?
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How about taking out the stamp and saying "mom, would you like to use the stamp, or shall I? We need to get your tax returns to Mr. X today"? 

In other words, you give her a "forced choice--this or that. She can stamp them or you will do it for her, which would you like mom? 

Not "would you like to sign the tax forms?".
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For years, she has used a "signature stamp" her bank made, from her authentic signature; her hand shakes when she writes. Uses it everywhere that requires a signature; nobody has objected. Besides, she tends to give me a lot of glib and irrelevant talk instead of signing the form; she reads things into papers that aren't there.
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does she actually say "no"? or does she say "I'll do it later" ?
sometimes when I need to have my mom sign. I have her practice on a separate paper so she feels more comfortable (since she no longer signs her name a lot, she almost forgets how) Also my mom get overly concerned with how "neat" her handwriting is. Just a thought, if she could do a simple "X" if you could check with the CPA if that's allowed. Sometimes doing an enjoyable activity together to make her mood happy then I can get my mom to co-operate better. Once they get annoyed with a request its like they shut down a little. You might try saying, if you do "this"...then later we can do that. (maybe a special trip to the store) sorry first time posting here not sure if any help.
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