My mom, who is the primary caregiver for my dad who is in the early stages of AD and has physically issues from a major surgery that removed a massive 17 lb tumor from his abdomen, is being harassed by her downstairs neighbor. They live in a retirement community (not assisted living, just a 55+ condo style community). The neighbor downstairs is 88 and lost his wife about 10 years ago to AD. For the past month, this man has been calling my parents house asking my mom to come down to talk to him. As the month progressed the calls became more aggressive. Finally, he started calling my mom by his deceased wife's name, demanding that she come downstairs. My father, who still basically has most of his faculties, is FURIOUS with this man and threatened to call the police on him. My father cannot get his head around the fact that this man is sick and he really has no idea who my mom is (thinks she is his wife).
This man's family rarely visits. I'm assuming when they do visit (10 minutes once a week) this may is able to showtime and not show any symptoms to his family members...which is why no one has gotten him any help.
At a tea social in the community's club house, this man cornered my mom in the kitchen yelling at her that she hadn't talked to him and was avoiding him (he used her real name, not his wife's name at this time)
Yesterday this man saw another woman who lives in the community and called her to his apartment. She went in, and came running out several minutes later, very flustered.
I believe this man could be dangerous if he thinks his wife is avoiding him, and will treat ANY female in the community as his wife and attack them. I have requested that my mom first call the community manager and complain, then call the police (ironically the community manager is a senior officer on the police force as well).
No one wants to call the police. They want this man to get help, but without his family's support he won't get help. What can I do to keep my mom safe? She is very scared of this man and doesn't want to go outside walking any more, or attend functions. I want to call the police NOW and not wait for the family to get off their butts to help. Any thoughts?