Every time I try to discuss moving my mother into a care facility or my own home, I am cut short because she is supporting my 54 y/o sister who lives with her, drives her car, spends her money on groceries, etc. The problem is, my mother's dementia is getting worse and she needs help with bathing, mobility, meal preparation, medicine, etc. She won't leave my sister (her "baby"), but my sister will not provide consistent, good care (I suspect she is over-using pain meds and is often asleep). I am the power of attorney (both health and financial) and feel like I need to make a move regardless, but my sister is really good at making me feel guilty. I cannot have my sister in my home. Is it cruel to move my mom against her will?