Hello, I am new here. I am so glad I found this site. I am the 2nd youngest of eleven. My mom developed vascular dementia after a very bad fall. She was on the floor for 10 hours, I blame myself as I should have been home. I had gone to a casino and didn’t come home when I should have. I even knew something was wrong, I could feel it....but I ignored this feeling. Anyway, this isn't about me. So, Mom was diagnosed in 2020. It was a very rapid decline. The doctors first said it was typical with older age....Oh....mom is 84 years young! She is hilarious! People often say that my mom and I are a comedy act. We have a very special bond. My mom has been having and is having serious trouble with remembering her words. I can tell how frustrating it is for her, she knows what she wants to say but she cannot come up with the correct words. Her memory is not too bad...she does forget things that might have happened a week or two ago or even a few hours ago. Her balance and mobility are terrible, but I feel this is also because of the fall. Thinking about it, her memory is a tad worse than I said, she cannot always remember her grandchildren’s names or which sibling they belong to.
With this said, Mom had 11 children...each sibling had several children (except one brother only has one child). Mom also has 18 great-grandchildren. So she has around 42 or more grandchildren. I am the only one not married and who does not have children. Several siblings are coming down to “help me clean the house out...you know throw stuff away...I am doing this because I am tired of all the stuff in the house....they seem to think I am cleaning out for when mom dies....I am just wanting to update the house.... Also, I am selling a bunch of items to get money....I cannot work because I need to be available for my mom....my siblings do not help me financially....but they ALL expect me to be there for mom...I live with her....sorry, this is a story for another day....So my siblings seem to think mom is going to die soon...as I said I don’t think she is that bad....sure she has her days...but who doesn’t....this is driving me crazy and honestly it scares me and hurts me...my mom is my best friend....How do I get them to stop....I feel like they are trying to put her in the grave..