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Why Thank You. I hope you have a Happy New Year!!
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I have a friend who also has some mental,and emotional concerns. She lives on the East Coast. I know she doesn’t work, but she has an apartment. I believe she receives aid from the state and the apartment is Section Eight which is 30% of your income.

Don’t panic. I know it’s hard to find time to grieve when you are worried sick about your future. Go on the Internet and do research on financial aid. Jobs and Family Services in your community is a good place to start. Dialing 211 is another. The research isn’t easy and you’ll get turned down like I have. The woman at Social Security made me feel like a worthless beggar. But help is out there. Good luck!
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Let see. I have no job(applied for a few, but nothing now), I have no Girlfriend, I have no money, I might lose my house, I lost my mom, I have no skills, no experience, LImited education, No Driver's License(as I never had the money to get the lessons), I spent Christmas Eve and Christmas Day by myself as I thought I had plans with my father but I called him and he never called me back(I would've gone with my Uncle but it was too late to call him and go back and forth) and I'm alone for NYE. I don't to do anything tonight anyway.

Happy New Year Everybody!!!
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Thank You. Not only do I lose my mom but I have to deal with all this other crap??
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Unfortunately mets there are many cases where people do not qualify for disability but the state has to go through and address each of them which probably adds to the back up.
Also often medical records, though requested, are not submitted in a timely fashion which subsequently holds up the claims. And of course the agency itself may be short staffed.
State agencies can’t concern themselves with each person’s details. 
It really helps your case to have your own medical records available so in the interim you can request copies. Have you been seeing health care providers consistently that will support your application for disability? 
All things to think about even as you work through your grief over losing your mother. 
So sorry for your loss. 
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Thank You Shane. Wow, 2-3 years. I don't think that's right. I mean you lose a family member or maybe more in that time. Isn't that enough?
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It may take longer than that. Cases here in MD run 2-3 yrs for state disability. Not to mention the volumes of medical records they want.

Sorry to hear about your mom. 
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So, I just talked to The Center of Disability Rights. They basically told me that you can apply for Disability but it will take 6 months to 1 year. I don't think that's fair, but the nice woman I talked basically told me I should find a job. I will look for a job now.
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Why that means a lot, Thank You. I hope your having a Good Holiday.
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Dear mets82,

My deepest sympathies and condolences. I'm so sorry for your loss. I know its an extremely difficult time. It sounds like you are taking the right steps with making all these applications. Maybe a church has some resources that will help you bridge the gap till some of these applications takes effect. Thinking of you.
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I have also applied for Disability and in fact 211 gave me a phone number to call about Disability. It's called The Center of Disability Rights. So, they will let me know as I sent them an Email about my situation. Only thing is they said they would get back to me Tuesday. I don't know if they mean Dec. 26 or Jan. 2.
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Well, I called 211 and applying for Food Stamps. I don't know if I will get SNAP Benefits but this is something. They are sending me an application to fill out.
211 gave me assistance and a couple of phone numbers for assistance in paying my Oil bill. I have an appointment on Jan. 24.

I also have a phone call placed into helping pay my UI Bill. So, that's something so far.
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I sent mets a private message with a link, but here is another www.211.org/services/housing-and-utilities
I would see Social Services adult social worker and get welfare, food stamps, etc. Ask about a pro bono attorney in your state. You should apply for disability. You can get help with utility bills, mortgages, etc. The social worker should be able to help with that.
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Getting approved for Disability can take some time. Maybe you could go on welfare and get food stamps?
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Sometimes a local church will have resources to help thru times like this, as well as someone who can help you navigate the legal issues to attempt to retain the house. Even if it's limited help, perhaps you can piece together enough financially to get thru a very short period.
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Yes, I was paying the bills with her money. I don't have any siblings and there is no will.
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Mets, what is confusing is -- how were you paying the bills if you weren't working? Your mom's money must have been paying the bills... and now that your mom is deceased, you don't have access to that money, is that it? Do you have siblings? Is there a will? I get it that you need income right away but... other than applying to any and every job out there... is there not a store or fast food restaurant within walking distance or can you take a bus? What about valuables or useful objects in the house? Is there anything you can sell through online marketplaces? 

There is no program to pay you for helping out your mother AFTER she has passed away, and there are precious few that may have paid you before she passed away. But now that she is deceased, no, there is no option for that.
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Everything was in my mom's name. I was paying the bills.
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How did you pay her bills if you were not her POA? Did she make her accounts joint with your name on it? If so, you automatically have that money.
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So, before mom got sick, how did you support yourself and live?
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I just read the link. I understand grieving and all, I really do, but I'm talking about income. I'm going to lose everything.
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https://www.agingcare.com/discussions/grief-over-dads-death-snuck-up-on-me-161567.htm
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The thing is that I'm ok with my mom's death. I'm scared having no income. , I tried to enter that in the searchbar and it didnt work.
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Enter this in your searchbar. (which is the 3 short bars on the blue line above:
"The grief over my dad's death has snuck up on me." by eyerishlass.

Take some time.
See your therapist NOW, don't wait for a normal appointment.
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Your Mom was on Medicaid but was she in a facility?
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So, what do I do next?
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I'm sorry for the loss of your mom mets82
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"Well, they told me that if I'm well enough to dress and cook for myself then I'm not that disabled."

That is not true for I'm on disability and so is my wife. We can do those two things.
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If your Mom was on Medicaid (as you stated), and you cared for her for five years, and there is no will, you need to see an attorney ASAP. You will quickly find that all of her assets will become frozen when the death notification reaches the bank.
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Well, they told me that if I'm well enough to dress and cook for myself then I'm not that disabled.
I don't receive Medicaid, Social Security or SSI?

I filled out Social Security Disability online. My mom didn't have Mortgage Insurance as we were able to get The Mortgage lowered with Loan Modification.
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