My mom passed away. Can anybody help me or at least point me in the right direction?

Thank You Shane. Wow, 2-3 years. I don't think that's right. I mean you lose a family member or maybe more in that time. Isn't that enough?

Unfortunately mets there are many cases where people do not qualify for disability but the state has to go through and address each of them which probably adds to the back up.
Also often medical records, though requested, are not submitted in a timely fashion which subsequently holds up the claims. And of course the agency itself may be short staffed.
State agencies can’t concern themselves with each person’s details. 
It really helps your case to have your own medical records available so in the interim you can request copies. Have you been seeing health care providers consistently that will support your application for disability? 
All things to think about even as you work through your grief over losing your mother. 
So sorry for your loss. 

Thank You. Not only do I lose my mom but I have to deal with all this other crap??

Let see. I have no job(applied for a few, but nothing now), I have no Girlfriend, I have no money, I might lose my house, I lost my mom, I have no skills, no experience, LImited education, No Driver's License(as I never had the money to get the lessons), I spent Christmas Eve and Christmas Day by myself as I thought I had plans with my father but I called him and he never called me back(I would've gone with my Uncle but it was too late to call him and go back and forth) and I'm alone for NYE. I don't to do anything tonight anyway.

Happy New Year Everybody!!!

I have a friend who also has some mental,and emotional concerns. She lives on the East Coast. I know she doesn’t work, but she has an apartment. I believe she receives aid from the state and the apartment is Section Eight which is 30% of your income.

Don’t panic. I know it’s hard to find time to grieve when you are worried sick about your future. Go on the Internet and do research on financial aid. Jobs and Family Services in your community is a good place to start. Dialing 211 is another. The research isn’t easy and you’ll get turned down like I have. The woman at Social Security made me feel like a worthless beggar. But help is out there. Good luck!

Why Thank You. I hope you have a Happy New Year!!

I'm sorry on the loss of your mom. Saying prayers that all works out well for you.

You wrote;
"Everything was in my mom's name. I was paying the bills."

HOW did you do pay them? ATM card? Checks? Did you bring her into the bank to withdraw the money?
Does she have any money left in her account that you can live on until the government services and a new job kick in?

I would call all the utilities and other necessary services and explain the situation. They will be much more lenient if you give them a heads up as to why the bills may be late. Often, they can work out payment plans for you.

Good luck.

Thank You. I was paying the bills using her pension check and checking account. I have very little money left.

Pray

I've applied to about 10 jobs. CVS, Big Y, Boston Market, Bookkeeper, but have heard nothing yet. I don't think I'm qualified.

Like others who have been caregivers, Mets, you are most likely over-qualified.!!
It is like being cursed.
That desperate demeanor does not help, and if you become aware of it, you may be able to change it!
Sometimes, spending a bit (on a haircut) can do wonders, you will be standing up straight, smiling, and get the next job!

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It sounds like things have gone from bad to worse. :(

Yeah, somewhat. I didn't think it was possible.

Dear mets82,

Thinking of you. I hope things turn a corner soon. Hang in there. Please know we are all here.

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Thank you guys. I hope my life changes but I'm not betting on it.

Hi mets82, I did read your blog. Is your home paid for and can you stay there for good? If so, that’s a huge plus.
I couldn’t ascertain what your employment was prior to all this, but it sounds like you had a career and put it in the back burner.
I would suggest applying for temporary positions in your field to get started. Visit employment websites like Indeed.com etc and register to be notified of positions in your area. That’s a great site.
Think about maybe renting a room to someone responsible for an income source.
You need to get busy for your mental health. You sound like a well educated person with a lot to offer, it’s just that getting back into the work force is hard - especially with an employment gap and yes, age discrimination (which totally exists these days). I really do think that the pendulum is changing as far as employers hiring older people as we have a good work ethic & are reliable.
Maybe consider classes at your local community college to get training in IT/Microsoft to add those skills to your resume.
It’s never too late, Mets82, and I believe you will be rewarded for caring for your mom for those years but you have to get out there and put some effort into it. It already sounds that you have made a start.
Apply everywhere - supermarkets are often hiring and have great benefits if you get set part time or full time hours.
Make a list of goals for yourself. Realize the benefits you already have (a home). Sell the home if it’s yours and either rent or buy a smaller place to live so the upkeep is not over your budget.
Don’t give up!
Go to your county website and employment site as many local businesses post positions or links to positions there for people who are on unemployment. Take advantage of county resources for career training - often these services are free as well if offered by local government.
You are still grieving the loss of your mother & that is hard. But your mom would want you to go on and live your life to it’s fullest as that would be her goal for you.
I believe things will get better for you, but you’ve got to believe it yourself.
Become a Uber driver of you have a vehicle.
Good luck!

Check your area labor department. They often have classes to update computer skills and even job counseling.

Goodwill also has job counseling.

The more I think about your situation, the less I have to say other than I am praying for a miracle for you. I mean you have no job, no money, a mortgage that is due and even if it was paid for Medicaid would take it plus no driver's license as well as being disabled. You need a miracle.

Since there is no will, your mother's estate will be settled by the court in test ate which men's the government will get most of her money and you will get some.

Now, my mom was on Medicaid. I wasn't on Medicaid but is there anyway I can contact Medicaid and would they pay me because I was a caregiver for her?

Not now they want. In some states medicaid does pay a caregiver a little.

So basically, it wouldn't do me any good to call Medicaid and explain my situation?

Medicaid will not pay you retroactively for care. If you call to get paid, the answer will be no.

Right

Ok, well thank you for the help.

Take your mother's death cirtificate to the courthouse and get your mother's estate dealt with so you can get some money from her account.

I'll do that ASAP.

Another suggestion, if no one has mentioned, is for you to find a caregiver's position, preferably a live-in situation since your mother's house might be taken by the government to reimburse Medicaid. You already know all about care giving and have done it for years so you are very qualified.

I don't understand. You mean take care of somebody in somebody else's home?