My mom lives alone and is able to care for herself in most daily things, but she falls, forgets meds, gets mail alone outside. Any ideas?

TAKE ACTION NOW!!! Please!!!!!! Whatever that may mean for you and your family. Just keep her safe, however that may work out. Because it sounds like she is no longer able to do that for herself.

Oskigirl: And what happens if they don't want to move to an AL? My late mother didn't, causing me to move out of state.

I hate to say it but she must have dementia and cannot stay by herself. Consider placing her into a facility before something horrible happens. You really have no choice any longer.

Unfortunately your mother is no longer able to live alone. What if she forgot she took her meds and took them again. This could be deadly. Sorry for the bluntness but you ladies need to act fast. If I had thought about it I would have gotten my Mom in home care, but I gave her a choice - I move in with her or she moves in with me. 6 years later she is deep into dementia but healthy; she can still walk unaided and until recently showered unaided. Not bad for a 95 yo. We have an aid in the morning, then a shuttle pick her up for her adult day care. We get home at the same time, so it's me nights and weekends.