My father passed away 5 years ago. My mother is now 91 years old and has been very depressed for the past 5 years. Her psychologist has told me she is a little girl who never grew up. My Father did everything for her. Up until now my mother has lived independently in her own home. With my help. My brother and I take her everywhere. She does not drive.
The past month she has been admitted to ER 3 times for not taking her medication and dehydration. The 3rd time she had a mini-stroke. Fortunately, it didn't leave her with any paralysis. However, she is very weak and is a fall risk. The doctors at the hospital told us that she needs rehab and needs to eat to get stronger so they suggested a SNF. She has been there a week and is refusing PT. I feel so guilty about placing her there. I cry everyday (but she doesn't know that). She calls me crying and upset everyday. My brother and I have been seeing her every other day. So in the past 1 weeks she has had visitors almost every day. The facility is very organized and clean. The nurses and staff are taking good care of her.
Before all this happened, we tried hiring in-home care and she fires them as fast as we can hire them. I have also tried Meals on Wheels and several other food services but she doesn't like the food. She was also laying in bed at home not getting up.
I'm so confused and upset. Not sure what to do now! It's effecting my sleep and attitude. My husband is very understanding but...