I'm at my wits end. I've been caring for my 88 year sold mother for the past 9 years, since my dad died. When he died, she decided she didn't want to live anymore and just stopped living. She is terrified of living alone, so my husband has spent every night for the past 9 years in her spare room across the hall. She and my dad built a house on our property during the last 6 months of his life. He passed from cancer.
I guess it was about 5 years ago, mom had to start seeing a pain specialist. One thing led to another, and before we realized how drugged up he had her, she was in a wheelchair. That lasted a year, and with lots of PT we got her back on her feet again, but with a walker, which she hates.. However, mentally, it was the start of a slow but steady decline that continues to this day. She has very little short term memory, and now her long term memory is starting to go. I had her tested for Alzheimers three years ago, but the doctor said it was dementia, as opposed to Alzheimers.
She turned hateful to me and it has continued for years. I bite my tongue for the most part, but yesterday I lost my temper and yelled at her. I told her how tired I was and then I told her she was turning into a bitch. I hate that I said it, but you can't unring the bell. Today she threatened to have me arrested for elder abuse. I sit here and shake my head, after all that I have given up for her, that she could even consider that. I've never hurt her, and wouldn't for anything in the world. I'm 62 years old now. My 50's are gone and I didn't get to live them, and she is going to accuse me of abuse? I'm speechless.
In the past 9 years, I was able to leave this property for two nights, and that was to bury my husbands brother.
I don't know this woman at all. She hates me, and I see this spiraling downhill quickly. This is a sad end to a relationship wherein we were the very best of friends.
How can I protect myself against false accusations? My mom will lie at the drop of a hat and lies to me without hesitation. I still work full time, but have to work from home. I'm fortunate that I'm able to do so, but something like this could also cost me my job. I feel so hopeless right now.