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Mom is lonely, forgets my sisters being there to visit. They have a grueling schedule and are there 7 days a week. When she is lonely, she does not want to cooperate with the aides at this facility. The turnover is horrible, so it is never the same person. Some of the aides are young with no experience, it is just a paycheck so, they have zero empathy.
Is it possible to find an older adult who would be willing to go, visit with her, encourage her to eat lunch, sit outside, play bingo or games with her?
We will be willing to pay for this service. I just do not know where to look.
Thank you.

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Look for someone who has done companion work with the elderly. A companion sits with them, watches TV, plays games, engages in conversation. I found them through a home nursing service. They don't charge as much as someone who changes briefs, toilets them, or performs other personal services. Check with adult day care services for people who might take on private jobs. Check with churches' eldercare missions to find out if they'll make regular visits. At my husband's memory care, sometimes the aides' young adult children visit with the residents for one-on-one time. (They are paid by the resident, but I don't know how much.) Find a young mother who would like to earn money but doesn't want to work full time. While her children are in school she might visit with mom; you'd pay her a reasonable hourly rate. I hope you find what you're looking for!
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Go to care.com. Also post on your local NextDoor app.
With the level of forgetfulness here it is very unlikely that visits will help. As you can see, family visits don't do the job. I would have the MPOA speak with doctor about trying a mild anti-depressant if they feel it could help, but overall know that this is simply not the happiest time in ANYONE'S life.
You should speak to the members of staff at your facility, and perhaps even the admins to see if they have further ideas, options for you.
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Join NextDoor in the area of the nursing home and post your need for a helper, asking specifically for referrals from people who have used a helper like you seek. I see this often on my local NextDoor, people are happy to share contacts of caregivers they’ve had success with
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My MILs place had a list of options. She had a few come and spend the day. She selected one from that list. There might be a minimum number of hours per day. My MIL grew very close to this lady and requested her presence when she died. Then she told us to add her and our other helper, a pastor's wife in the will. Ask the nursing home. Usually there is a vetted list.
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