Your POA , if Mom is found incompetent to make her own decisions u can have her placed in an AL, if she can afford it, or in LTC applying for Medicaid if she can't afford. Its no longer what she wants, its what she needs.
If you need to move her in temporarily, then do it until you can get things planned. But I would not recommend sister moving in. She has too much baggage that will be brought into ur home. You do not need that additional stress. There are resources out there your sister can take advantage of.
I don’t think her living with any of her children is best solution. Sometimes that can and does work out but so often it doesn’t. It didn’t for me.
I had my mom living with me. I wanted nothing more than to help my mom. I had the very best intentions. Unfortunately it became a nightmare.
Every situation is different. Look at this very carefully before you decide anything. What are mom’s needs?
Will it progress into a situation that you cannot provide adequately for? What is her personality like? Do the two of you generally get along?
Have you considered that your privacy will go out of the window if she moves in? Will she share living expenses?
Will you need POA? Do you work and will you continue to be able to work? Who will provide respite care when needed? The list goes on and on...
Do you have access to her medical records? Find out what is needed first as far as care goes. Speak to her doctor if she gives you permission. Also ask to speak to a social worker to help you plan for future care.
Does she have finances to support an assisted living facility? If not, look into what is needed for a nursing home.
An independent caregiver hired to stay with her can cost more than assisted living.
If you need to move her in temporarily, then do it until you can get things planned. But I would not recommend sister moving in. She has too much baggage that will be brought into ur home. You do not need that additional stress. There are resources out there your sister can take advantage of.
I had my mom living with me. I wanted nothing more than to help my mom. I had the very best intentions. Unfortunately it became a nightmare.
Every situation is different. Look at this very carefully before you decide anything. What are mom’s needs?
Will it progress into a situation that you cannot provide adequately for? What is her personality like? Do the two of you generally get along?
Have you considered that your privacy will go out of the window if she moves in? Will she share living expenses?
Will you need POA? Do you work and will you continue to be able to work? Who will provide respite care when needed? The list goes on and on...
Do you have access to her medical records? Find out what is needed first as far as care goes. Speak to her doctor if she gives you permission. Also ask to speak to a social worker to help you plan for future care.
Does she have finances to support an assisted living facility? If not, look into what is needed for a nursing home.
An independent caregiver hired to stay with her can cost more than assisted living.
Best wishes to you and your family.