She insists she just had a bath a few days ago. We have purchased hand held shower, safety handles etc. for her bath. She took them all back down. From what we can tell she has not had a bath or shower for several months. We did wash her hair in the sink once in that time. Reasonable conversations result in an agreement to let us help her bathe weekly but when the time comes she refuses. Says she just bathed "a couple days ago". I tried to hire a bath aide but when she arrived at the house mom got her car keys and left. We don't know what to do. We have about given up. Our mom used to be so different. Now she never cleans house, rarely does laundry, and wears old ratty clothes. Back in the day she was always well dressed and her house was spotless. Oddly enough she continues to "put on her face" every day whether she is going out or not. She also refuses to let us hire a housekeeper. She was a great mom to us and we are so frustrated with trying to give back the loving care she gave us. What do we do? Can we just give up on the bath?