It is getting worse daily. My Dad is still alive and working-from his computer. All my mother does is run around all day-driving to pick up this and that, prescriptions, food, etc-basically taking care of him. And the entire condo. She cooks every night and does dishes too. There are some health issues-her with heart-and him diabetes. She has zero patience with me and my husband-we are right they are willing and ready to help her whenever she needs it. Sometimes we help them financially.. But the current situation is intolerable. It doesn’t matter what I say she fights me all the time raises her voice at the littlest thing and hangs the phone up on me. She did so this week a couple of days ago. Kind of ruined Mother’s Day weekend. We were all planning on going out to dinner, but my husband and I are very disillusioned. She doesn’t think anything of it and after a few days or a week or two will call me like nothing happened. I really don’t wanna have any more contact with her, but she is my mother and I love her. But my Blood pressure is high, and it is causing me and my husband a lot of stress. HELP!!!
It sounds like your mother is under a good deal of stress.
Can you contact her doctor in writing and enumerate your concerns about her health?
Unless your mother has signed HIPAA paperwork allowing you to GET medical information, you won't have a conversation with the doctor, but you can GIVE her/him the relevant information.
It's sad that your mother doesn't see your concern as an expression of love. Let it go for a bit, maybe limit contact and see if that helps YOUR stress level.