My mom lives with my sister. My sister had a stroke and is in a wheelchair but mentally, she’s fine. My mom moved in with her years ago to help her out. Now, my mom has very bad anxiety and her memory is getting bad. She constantly worries about dying and she doesn’t want my sister to have to take care of her. She said she thinks she’s going to wake up one morning and not remember anything, or she’s not going to wake up at all. I believe this is the trigger to the anxiety. She takes a low dose of Xanax twice a day. When the anxiety hits, she shakes, mumbles and claps her hands. She won’t leave the house except to go to the doctor. We have a wedding and two showers coming up and we can’t convince her to go which means someone in the family will have to miss it. How can we convince her to go? The drugs do nothing to calm her. She refuses to go and we’re afraid to leave her alone.