Mom calls me with questions on what to do. What do I do? Mom calls upset telling me she is wore out from taking care of kids. She says their mother just drinks and sits in front of the computer and sleeps most of the time. Basically my 85 year old mother (65% hearing loss in both ears, diagnosed with dementia, her eye sight is not real well, and she has other mental and emotional problem) keeps calling (sometimes 4-6 times a day) me to give her the answer to her problems. I have lived in that disfunctional home off and on for years. I finally got out for good, but she keeps dragging me back to it by her constant fretting and complaining. I can’t help her. I try to direct her to stop trying to control the situation. those are not her children, and if she keeps taking care of them what’s nothing her will never change. My brother does nothing. He is not her friend. He has several mental and physical issues. He is my oldest brother. Him and my other brother, now deceased took me to court after I had taken care of my mom for 3 1/2 years without their help, and bashed me with lies to the court. It’s another long story. But I cannot take my mom because of it. Although I wouldn’t want to because she flys off the handle at random for stupid little things. So basically I got away from it all. I live 10 hours away. Do you have any advise on how to handle this? My mom was at the birth of my three daughters, we have always been the closest of any of my siblings. She depends on me, but I cannot help her and it’s going to start weighing in me again before to long if I don’t find an answer. I didn’t answer her calls for a month awhile back. I found personal relief, but thought about her dying and my deflect to answer her calls. I didn’t want that on my conscience for the rest of my life. Oh yeah, my mom had a heart attack a few years ago with a stint. She’s a bit of a control freak I’m afraid. Do you have any advise, or recommendation? Thank you.