She forgets almost everything, misplaces items and even worse, accuses my father who is her primary caretaker of cheating on her. He is 84 and she is 81. She refuses to have anyone help in the house. And my Dad is too emotional to do anything but what she wants. Who and where do I go to seek help? I have a feeling she will have to go into a nursing home, but I know that both of them would never agree to it. What she is doing to my dad borders on abuse. Dad allows her to do it, so it is a never ending battle. She has always had high peaks and low valleys of emotion as long as I can remember. Now they are more frequent, and very unsettling.