You have 2 of the exact same questions (worded a bit differently) going on at the same time!
My ex husband was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer about 6 years ago, and given a short 1 year life expectancy. Instead, he rallied after chemo and is still alive and cancer free today, believe it or not, which is a miracle.
My dad had a brain tumor at 91 years old, which was likely cancerous, we never did find out for certain, and was placed on hospice and given 4 months to live. He passed away 19 days later. It was a peaceful transition, thank God, and he didn't struggle or suffer, thanks to hospice and the comfort measures they administered.
You are right in saying (in your other post) that God is in charge of when your dear mom is taken Home. I hope that when that day does arrive, it's peaceful and her transition is painless, like my dad's was. Hospice can give you a time frame in which they feel her passing may happen, but they never know for certain. I hope that God gives you the strength to cope with the loss and the grief that comes afterward, too. Best of luck.
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I’m new to the forum and really didn’t know how to ask any questions. My mom was diagnosed last June 2020 and went thru multiple chemo treatments. In November of 2020 scans showed tumors had shrank and things looked better. Feb 2021 scanned again and tumors were back 10x worse than before. It was then she decided no more treatment and just wanted to live the rest of her days without dr visits. In April 2021 hospice stepped in she has done what i would Say great up until about a month ago. She has fairly good days but more bad ones but we are thankful for the good ones. Her hospice nurse has been great. With her and us, we’ll me since I’m taking care of her. Within the last two weeks her vitals have started dropping and just all over the place. Pulse up and down. She’s become very confused most days but her pain has been managed very good by her nurse. I can See such a tremendous decline just within the past two weeks. Breathing is different. Coughing is way way worse and she has an awful rattle like gurgling sound when she sleeps. I sleep In the bed with her. She doesn’t want a hospital bed brought in so i try My best to make her as comfortable as possible. I’m just terrified. No other way to put it. Nurse has talked to me said she could go down any day now. My brothers help what they can. And they’ve done great but it’s been so very hard on me 24/7 watching her drift away. When i came Upon this forum i thought I’d at least try it. Talking to others and their advise i figured Might help me. thank you again, and thank you for sharing your story and your thoughts. God bless you
My ex husband was diagnosed with stage 4 colon cancer about 6 years ago, and given a short 1 year life expectancy. Instead, he rallied after chemo and is still alive and cancer free today, believe it or not, which is a miracle.
My dad had a brain tumor at 91 years old, which was likely cancerous, we never did find out for certain, and was placed on hospice and given 4 months to live. He passed away 19 days later. It was a peaceful transition, thank God, and he didn't struggle or suffer, thanks to hospice and the comfort measures they administered.
You are right in saying (in your other post) that God is in charge of when your dear mom is taken Home. I hope that when that day does arrive, it's peaceful and her transition is painless, like my dad's was. Hospice can give you a time frame in which they feel her passing may happen, but they never know for certain. I hope that God gives you the strength to cope with the loss and the grief that comes afterward, too. Best of luck.
thank you again, and thank you for sharing your story and your thoughts. God bless you