The last fall put her in the hospital. She had a brain bleed which they said healed. They said there was nothing they can do for her, She is now in rehab , slowly declining. She is in extreme pain, barely eating. And she lives in Florida. My brother lives in Ohio and I am in Georgia. We are getting no direction from the facility she is in. I want her near me so I can be present constantly My question is, Where can she go once near me for help? She is basically helpless right now, can’t walk at all. Should I start over and bring her to the hospital first? Get her reassessed? Please help, the social worker is not helpful either.
You probably need to go to Florida and assess and get some help finding her a placement at a home in Georgia and let them help you figure out how transportation to that nursing home will go.
Your mom very clearly can no longer live alone at home.
We were going to transfer my MIL from Crystal River Fla to Atlanta GA. and the cost was 2k 12 years ago. I really don't see how you can make any decision without being there.
She is unlikely to be there longer than about 20 days, and perhaps less if she is unable to progress in terms of cooperating with rehab physical and occupational therapy (PT and OT.
Your mother, before this brain bleed was on her own.
That would indicate that this brain bleed has damaged her brain to the extent she is no longer able to be on her own.
This means placement and the easier placement is done through social workers at this rehab.
The truth is that your information (at least as shared with us) is spotty and not good. But this doesn't sound like a woman ready to "move" anywhere; she sounds as though she needs placement at this time in a nursing home.
You do not indicate that either brother or yourself are POA/DPOA. If there is a will in her home there may be a "springing POA" in it designating one of you or both of you.
This is going to be step by step as nothing is in place to deal with this sudden decline. I believe there is nothing for this now but either you or your brother--or both of you--to fly to where your mother is and speak with doctors about her diagnosis and prognosis, and with social workers at the rehab regarding placement. You will need options to learn how to put one or both of yourselves in power to accomplish placement, examine or create documents with and elder law attorney, get temporary guardianship through either social workers or APS (they often can accomplish this with a call to a judge).
Sorry, but this is a step at a time until you can get the facts. There is little that a forum of strangers can do but advise you to "be there" to get information and make decisions. A move near either of you isn't in the cards right now. There are too many medical issues at this time. I wish you the best. I hope you'll update us.
If she is in extreme pain, barely eating and if she can not walk the only place that would be able to accept her would be another rehab or a Skilled Nursing facility.
Most likely she would need Medical Transport to bring her from Florida to Georgia. That would be a very expensive trip.
The best way to do this would be to find a facility you want her in and they can contact the facility where she is and discuss her needs and possible transfer.
Honestly it might be better and easier on her if she remains in Skilled Nursing where she is. If she qualifies for Hospice they will see that she is comfortable, you could communicate with the Hospice Social Worker rather than the facility SW.
And I suppose I should have asked this first...
Can mom communicate with you? If so have you asked her what she would want?