I’m worried she might assert squatting rights because she sleeps over nights and now asked if son can stay with her and mom. She gets paid for company solely and was researching that if she is a residential employee she cannot bill 5 hours of undisturbed sleep. Worried about her later refusing to leave and suing for unpaid hours when only sleeping
Of course the answer to can her son stay if OF COURSE NOT. You simply say "You are working; this is a job; of course your son cannot be here while you fulfill this job and requirement".
But the fact she ASKED this makes me worry. I think you should have cameras in your home. The fact is that when you have someone in home like this they have access to all of your mom's private financial information, SS numbers, and etc. It's dangerous and it makes me wonder the willy nilly way people now give access to cleaners, other workers into a home when all their identity info is readily available in seconds, including charge cards and everything else.
I don't know. You are feeling that you have an elder not safe alone. These are difficult decisions. I can't tell if this is someone you just hired out of an ad, or is working bonded by some agency, or though something like care.com. Or what your wage laws are in your area. But does sound to me like you are right to be concerned at present. I want to wish you good luck.
You really have to watch it with independent caregivers, especially boundary pushers.
I’d think again about the whole arrangement. You may be better off turning it into a genuine tenancy with a contract and terms.
For what purpose would the son be staying over?
I would not allow anyone to stay over w/o a contract.