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He took her to change the will and took me off.

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How many times have we heard this?  I am sorry that this has happened to you.  For some reason this changing of POA or changing of a parent's Will by the other sibling is getting more and more common.  Since your Mom has been diagnosed with Dementia, you might be able to contest the change of the Will since it was changed after the diagnosis. 

However, the changing of the Will is just the "tip of the iceberg" of the problems that you are going to face since your brother has POA of your Mom.  He could take all of her money and leave her unable to pay for her own nursing home care; he could restrict your access to your Mom and deny you visitation rights with your Mom, he could put your Mom in a nursing home that you do not want her to go into (and you will have no part of that decision), and so forth.  You need to talk to an Elder Care Attorney (and definitely NOT the same attorney that changed your Mom's Will) and ask what your options are.   Good Luck.
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Finding the Elder Care Attorney is your first step, and interview a couple until you find one that agrees with your gut feeling. Most offer free consultations. Then, you will need to get the date of diagnosis and get the other Will thrown out with their help. However, with POA he can spend any possible inheritance down to ensure he gets it all before she passes. I think you need to focus on getting the POA rescinded as well... but are you willing to take the responsibility that goes with that??

This scares the #&*& out of me. I have POA for both my parents, Mom is officially diagnosed with moderate dementia, and Dad probably will be at his appointments in the next month. I have had to lean on brother and SIL to assist with care, and moved my parents into AL in the town where they live. I am a 6 hour drive away and am not moving. I can see them 'gunning' for POA and they appear very resentful that "I control all the information" and have the Wills and other important documents in my possession (recently reviewed and approved by an Elder Law attorney). SIL took over paying their bills 6 months ago and I'm already seeing things I'm NOT happy about - late fees, 'loans' to themselves that were paid back... but still! And they resent that I even have logins to look at any of it. I can just see this in the future - and there is another brother on SSDI due to mental health issues. I try and keep all knowledge far, far away from him.

I'm totally on board with any inheritance, if not expended on care and medical, being split evenly in spite of my many years of being the caregiver before their involvement..... but I'm pretty sure they're thinking that since they are stepping up that somehow that is going to change.

These things are SO hard to deal with... find a lawyer to help you ASAP and block his control of the situation. ALL decisions should be made to honor your PARENTS decisions and in their best interest... seems like there is some reason that he thinks he is the center of the situation. So sad.

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they have already put aam epo on me so i cant see my mom
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