I don’t know if I talked about my mom and changing her will after everything that has happened with my brother pretty much writing her out of his life. I just keep praying that he is happy and maybe some day he will change his heart. Anyway, I took her to her lawyer so she could do a living will and that way I know what she wants. Of course I was in the lobby and I got a phone call from the assisted living where my FIL is. He wanted to walk to the bank. I didn’t recognize the number so I didn’t pick it up. So the message was they said no but maybe i can talk to him. I called my husband to deal with it but he was on a big call. So I called and now she offered to take him to the bank. Back to the will. My mom got in the car and she said I hope I did right. Then she said that I will be happy and surprised. Then she was talking about how the granddaughters who haven’t spoken to her in two years will end up with it all in the end. But remember I will be pleasantly surprised. It’s hers and she can do whatever she wants. I just asked her if it’s going to cause more problems. It shouldn’t. It’s almost like she wants to show them how much she loved them and they didn’t care about her. Okay my question is has anyone gone through that everything is a secret. I just go back to when I found a mess with her bills. So what else are we going to be surprised about. All my life everything was a secret. Why can’t we just talk about it so we are prepared. Has anyone gone through this. Thank you all. I am so grateful for this forum. Plus now she wants to prepay her funeral. If that’s what she wants no problem but she really has other things that will be coming up. Have any of you gone through prepaying the funeral.