She is on a feeding tube, catheter, colostomy bag, and ventilator/trachea as a result of an auto accident. She suffered a broken neck, broken hip, broken nose, etc. in the wreck. When admitted to ICU, she had to be put on a ventilator. She also has to be restrained as she will pull out the ventilator/trachea if loosened. She suffered a stroke about 5 years ago and does not understand to leave it alone. The facility (Regency Hospital) says she is stable and needs to be in home care and I can be trained to take care of her needs with the equipment. I am over 70 yrs old and in and out of the hospital myself with diverticulitis. I have been her caretaker since her stroke and cannot take care of her any more on any longer. She needs 24/7 care with all the equipment/hookups. I can not give that. The Regency says no facility, rehab, nursing home, etc. will take her with the restraints so I have no choice. I do not know what to do. Is there any facilities that will take restrained patients. I read the codes/laws and it appears that restraints ARE allowed with a written medical plan to treat and wean off restraints and is medically necessary. This is definitely necessary as she will harm herself to a point of death if she removes the tubes. I don't know why all of the medical staff say restraints are against the law--there are provisions for restraints in the law. The CEO, doctors, nurses, and staff at the hospital recommend I sign a DNR to let her pass. She has an alert mind and she recognizes family and friends and is not ready to die. I just do not know what to do: I thought the elderly were supposed to be cared for in this country but Medicare and her supplemental BC/BS insurance has ceased although they still take her monthly premiums from her social security check deposits. If they don't pay anymore why do they continue to charge? Something is not right with all of this. Are there government agencies that can help out in my situation?