I want her to pass peacefully. I'm not clueless but I don't wanna watch her suffer. She's in the hospital and pissed off at me about it but her vitals are perfect. So what do I tell her Dr's to do so she can pass peacefully?
Why do you want her to "pass peacefully" if she's only impacted? There's many simple solutions available to help with that, and what better place for her to be than in the hospital where they can address the problem. Is the staff addressing this issue, and giving her some laxatives, suppositories or even enema's to help her? If not you may have to request that something like that be done. Unless I'm missing something here, it doesn't sound to me like your "memaw" is knocking on deaths door. Wishing you and her the best.
What is she eating and drinking, or not? I'm surprised the attending and the nurses haven't addressed this. Can she eat? Raisins and nuts can help, as can soups and other foods.
Have doctors indicated to you that your memaw is dying? Being impacted isn't a death sentence. The doctors will know what to do about it. Importantly, if this is the ONLY problem now in hospital, then to prevent this it is crucial to get a good stool softener and to give it daily. As stool remains in the bowel water is removed from it, making it more and more solid and difficult to pass. Oil enemas also ease out hardener stools but are quite a mess otherwise. Fleets sells a good one; buy pads for the bed. Discuss hospice with the doctor. Hospice will guide you. I am assuming you are the POA for your memaw? Though 90 is a good age, many live longer than that today; nothing you tell us indicates that end of life is near. Is there something you would like to add regarding that?
Of course, you don’t want her to suffer. Have you spoken with the doctor about her situation? Have you asked to speak with the social worker at the hospital? They can guide you in the right direction.
Is the staff addressing this issue, and giving her some laxatives, suppositories or even enema's to help her? If not you may have to request that something like that be done.
Unless I'm missing something here, it doesn't sound to me like your "memaw" is knocking on deaths door. Wishing you and her the best.
Does she have a living will? Is she afraid?
Of course, you don’t want her to suffer. Have you spoken with the doctor about her situation? Have you asked to speak with the social worker at the hospital? They can guide you in the right direction.
Best wishes to you and your grandmother.