At the time she was living in an Assisted Living Facility and we have since moved her into our home (the facility is a major issue in itself but that is another topic). She requires 24/7 care now. We have a day sitter that stays with her while we work. We did see her on a weekly basis when she did not live with us. We got the phone calls with her crying - saying how lonely she was. Repetitive calls when we made plans because she couldn't remember what we had just told her etc. We knew she was getting was worse but she seemed ok, until I moved in with her. I would advise anyone who has a LO in a Assisted living facility - if they will let you stay overnight for a week to do it at least every 6 months, so that you know what is going on. It also gives you a chance to see how clean the place really is?? With so called light housekeeping twice a week? Our LO can put on the false front, whenever she is with anyone. Her Sunday School class does not think she has any problems.
So my questions are: she seems like she has gone downhill mentally, a lot. She is definitely a little passed the middle stage. Every day we remind her why she has a cast on. She cries whenever, for whatever reason, she is often confused about where she is. Sometimes she thinks it's her house or the facility. She stares off into space. She is no longer interested in reading the paper. Rarely plays on her ipad - solitaire. Definitely has good and bad days. Bad days she cries a lot, she is confused more than usual, looks depressed, is cold a lot (but she's will tell you she's hot natured) and shakes like crazy. We pull out the blankets and heating pad and give her something hot to drink before the shaking eases up.
She can walk with a walker but cries/whines every time because she's afraid she is going to fall. How well she does with the walking relates to her mental state. I make her walk (its not far) to the bathroom, supervised, and back to her chair. She has a bed sore that is healing because she is in it so much. I feel she needs to move and walk, for her mental health and muscle strength. At night I give her a break and let her sit on the walker and push her to bed.
Am I doing the right thing? Why is she shaking so much? Could it be Parkinsons? or is it all mental? She seems so much worse. Was she really this bad at the facility and we just didn't know? Am I being too hard on her? I am trying so hard to do the right thing. I have always felt their is a balance to helping or enabling. But with her, her age, and her mental state I am in new territory. I feel like I am dealing with a toddler. The pity crying gets on my nerves but I seem to do OK with everything else. Are we suppose to just let her stare into space? I am 2 months into this and everyday seems to be totally different. I just don't know.... for sure... between her mental state and the ankle.... I guess I just need some input or some assurance. I'm sorry this is so long. It's just hard to sum up something that seems to be so complex.