I feel horrible about placing her in an home. She has been using boxes and paper towel to do her duty in. She has urine incontinence and in the last visit to the er, they found out she has been infected with Cdff. I had to Clorox my entire home, buy new mattresses, etc. My husband, a disabled veteran has tried to pick her up as she's fallen many times and tore his rotator cuff. I am also caring for him with parkinson's, 3rd stage pulmonary fibrosis, diabetes, agent orange, neuropathy in all limbs, etc. Taking turns taking each of them to different er's. Mom had been hospitalized with the cdff and diarrhea and then moved to a rehab center. She cries and begs to come back home and has the nurses call me so she can beg to come home. She has lost majority of her memory and most times I am "that girl". I will be 70 and cannot do this alone. She has Medicare part A and B and a supplement of Cigna F. Anyone have any suggestions what to do. I cannot afford special care. I am looking into Medicaid and help from the VA as my dad was a veteran. Am I doing the right thing? What do I do when she cries to come back home? The guilt. I've had her living with us for 8 years now and taking care of her all that time. My sister "disowned" her 8 years ago and my brother has died of brain cancer. Please please advise if anyone has gone through this!!