My in law refuses to take her meds, and is aggressive and sometimes violent. I am wondering what my responsibilities and rights are if she continues this behavior after moving in with us?

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She lives in CA with my brother in law but will need to move to NC because her behavior creates an unhealthy environment for the children. She has hallucinations, speaks to people who are not there, called 911 to report a non existent dead body in the home, cries continuously, has locked herself in her room often, refuses to eat, or take any of her meds. I am wondering what my responsibilities and rights are if she continues this behavior after moving in with us? It is understood that this is a temporary stay and she will move into her own place if and when she becomes healthy. I understand this may not happen. However, I am relunctant to become a care giver to someone with such erratic behavior. She receives SSID benefits. I wonder if these benefits would cover a nursing home or in home care? Both my husband and I work full time, so neither of us would be able to care for her if she continues this way.

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Why is the BIL not bringing her to the ED and insist on a psych eval. Many posters mention the same advice. Call 911 for violence and transport, then insist that she is taken as an inpatient. Then refuse to have her discharged. Moving her will require new insurance enrollment.
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"She lives in CA with my brother in law but will need to move to NC because her behavior creates an unhealthy environment for the children." And her moving into your place will create an unhealthy environment for YOU. You count, too!
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If MIL has any form of dementia which your description above indicates, you need to know that she will not get better and can never live on her own
Do not move her across country until you have a complete care plan in place
Who has Power of Attorney for her ?
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She needs to be gotten into a secure psychiatric facility where doctors can adjust her meds.

You cannot house a noncompliant mentally ill person on your own if no one will be at home to supervise her.
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Does she have a diagnosis? If not, she needs to see a doctor and figure out what is going on. Since she has meds, I am guessing she has already done so. Before you know if you will be able to handle the situation, you will need to know what the situation is.

If a doctor says she needs the care of a nursing home or memory Care facility, it will be quite expensive. From what I know, she would need state residency first to qualify for medicaid (not medicare). It might be best to look at what is available in each state prior to moving her. Just a thought.

My mom stays at home with us so I don't know very much about that. Good luck and keep us posted.
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