Almost a year ago, my husband with younger onset frontotemporal dementia, started pounding wildly on faces of family members/friends he saw in photos around our home. This violent behavior has progressed to beating on the faces of people on TV and other electronic devices, along with screaming obscenities at the faces, and last week, he actually broke our flat screen tv with his pounding-the whole screen is now black when we turn it on. About a month ago, this disturbing behavior began to include pounding on bathroom mirrors when he sees his own reflection in them. I’m terrified whenever he does this, that the mirrors are going to shatter, and even though I know I shouldn’t react with anger, as it just fuels the bad behavior, I instinctively yell at him to stop it. But he just laughs maniacally, and begins pounding again. He’s much bigger and stronger than I am, and so I try to calm down and explain that I’m afraid the mirror will break and he’ll get hurt, and then try to redirect him to some other room. But I’m on edge constantly, not knowing when he’ll be pounding on some framed photo, device screen, mirror, and even pics of people’s faces in magazines, and the pounding is always accompanied by screaming or screeching swear words at the faces.
My husband’s neurologist has had me start him on a small dose of seraquel to see if that may calm him down, but my question is, where might this hostile behavior stem from? It doesn’t appear that my husband is having any unseen triggers such as pain, hunger, too cold, too warm, boredom, etc. Seeing the faces themselves, seem to be the trigger. He even raps with his knuckles on the photo faces of close family members on the fridge. When I asked him what he’s feeling when he does that, he said “I just don’t like them” and these are photos of our daughter, daughter-in-laws and nieces:-( I have no idea what to do-I can’t take down every photo in our home, not let him look at any magazines or electronic devices where he will see faces, or cover up all the bathroom mirrors! I’m so at my wits end with this nerve wracking behavior, and I can only hope that the seraquel helps to at least diminish it, or cuts down on the number of violent outbursts.