Our doctor is trying to find the right med that will help him sleep and help with the depression and is monitoring him. My husband (77 yo) is the last survivor in his immediate family which has greatly affected him. He wouldn't allow himself to grieve when he lost his brother last spring. To make things worse, he has seasonal affective disorder, so gets depressed once late fall/winter arrive. The two together are really taking a toll on him. There are days when he will hardly open his eyes. But, then, there are days when is pretty good - maybe one day a week. I try to do as much for him as I can, but I wonder if I'm really just enabling his depression. It's very frustrating and sometimes I just want to yell "get up," "move," "do something," but I know that won't help and could make him worse. Our doctor tried to get him to "commit" to doing three things between now and when she sees him in a month, but he wouldn't. He used to work with troubled people so knows about techniques he's using an says "he won't fall for that." I try to get him to go outside every day, but some days it takes hours. Any advice on how I can help him through this?