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I need a break and thinking about respite care in a nursing home for a few days. But I feel guilty thinking about that cause I know he won’t like it. And I’m also afraid of him declining even more if I do this. Any advice? Thanks
Jane, I think you wouldn't be considering Hospice Respite if it wasn't crucial to your health. Your husband is on hospice which is "End of Life Care" essentially. The end of life is "expected", if not the "goal", and that end to be as comfortable as it can be made. You DO, however, need to survive to provide the care, right?
This is a decision only you can make, knowing all the details. I trust you don't make it lightly. Things will not be, in planning one's death, any more perfect that life itself is. There are problems with which you do the best you are able to make the best decisions you can for all. My heart goes out to you and I wish you the best. But five days of rest is little enough to ask.
Please don’t take on more than you can possibly be responsible for, of course your husband won’t like any change, and of course he will decline. But those things are inevitable no matter what. Just as your husband needs care, you equally need care, or the consequence is your health declines and you’re no good to him. Schedule regular respite, not just once. Do so knowing it’s vital to you both. I wish you rest and peace
1.) talk to the Hospice Nurse or Social Worker. You can request Respite and that is covered by Medicare/Medicaid. But if you just need a break for a short time ask about getting a Volunteer. A Volunteer will come and stay with your husband so you can get out. Typically the time limit would be 3 to 4 hours. A Volunteer can do NO "hands on" care. This might help out if you just need a break. Some Volunteers will do 1 time a week for as long as the patient is on Hospice. 2. ) If your husband is a Veteran he may qualify for Home care services through the VA. If he is a Veteran contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission to see what benefits he may qualify for.
You have the same fear I had when I placed my Husband in Respite. he did a lot better than I thought he would. He WILL decline. It does not matter if he is at home or in a facility permanently or for Respite. The fact of life is there will always be a decline with dementia. Depending on the type of dementia the decline may be slow or fast. And if he gets ill even a cold can set him back. Placing someone in Respite is for YOU so you can get a break and refocus. You can not take care of him if you are not taking care of yourself.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
This is a decision only you can make, knowing all the details. I trust you don't make it lightly. Things will not be, in planning one's death, any more perfect that life itself is. There are problems with which you do the best you are able to make the best decisions you can for all. My heart goes out to you and I wish you the best. But five days of rest is little enough to ask.
You can request Respite and that is covered by Medicare/Medicaid. But if you just need a break for a short time ask about getting a Volunteer. A Volunteer will come and stay with your husband so you can get out. Typically the time limit would be 3 to 4 hours. A Volunteer can do NO "hands on" care. This might help out if you just need a break. Some Volunteers will do 1 time a week for as long as the patient is on Hospice.
2. ) If your husband is a Veteran he may qualify for Home care services through the VA. If he is a Veteran contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission to see what benefits he may qualify for.
You have the same fear I had when I placed my Husband in Respite. he did a lot better than I thought he would.
He WILL decline. It does not matter if he is at home or in a facility permanently or for Respite. The fact of life is there will always be a decline with dementia. Depending on the type of dementia the decline may be slow or fast. And if he gets ill even a cold can set him back.
Placing someone in Respite is for YOU so you can get a break and refocus.
You can not take care of him if you are not taking care of yourself.