My husband is mid-stage Alzheimers and needs a nebulizer. He's resentful and angry having to use this as well as a CPAP. Any suggestions?

The last sentence of your comment on NHWM’s post says it all. “I can’t force him to do it.” No, you can’t. He’s a grown man who needs to take responsibility for himself, I’ve written before on this forum that my husband is bed bound and I suspect it’s from years of blowing off therapy and believing he knew it all—far more than any therapists who ever worked with him. There’s no doubt he has serious medical issues, but most of them could have been avoided if he had taken care of himself and paid attention to what the doctors told him. If your husband has dementia as you posted under this topic, that’s a double whammy.

I have given up trying to help mine. I change and bathe him and wait on him hand and foot, but I make no suggestions as to what he should and should not do. When I bathe and change him, invariably he digs at his skin to the point he makes it bleed. I don’t know how he has avoided bedsores. I’ve stopped telling him not to scratch.

If your husband refuses his treatments, tell him ok and get on with whatever else you were doing. Let him know you’re available when he changes his mind but you have other things to do and don’t have time to waste arguing with him. Let his doctor know he’s refusing his treatments. The doctor might suggest someone to stop in and help him. Sometimes, help is accepted from a medical professional before a family member.

I’m sorry that he isn’t agreeable. Most likely he is frustrated and angry at himself and is taking it out on you. Of course that isn’t fair but it is human nature for some people.

How does he respond to doctors and nurses? Is he a bad patient also or will he be more agreeable with them. If so, let the medical team (doctor and nurses) do the heavy lifting.

My mom happens to listen to medical professionals better than she listens to me, her daughter. Others will chime in with advice. Good luck to you. Hugs!