We became aware in 2011. No one sees another side to him. He is argumentative. Argues that he wants to help but doesn't do it at all or doesn't finish. He tells me to remind him or get on his case and then he yells and curses to get off his back. He says I make things up. That really hurts. My stomach is a mess. We live in a CCRC and I think he belongs in memory care, but then I feel guilty that I should be able handle this. What should I do? He is almost 89 and I am almost 74.