My MIL says that she doesn’t need the caregivers either and a couple of times she kicked them out of the house (our house, not hers). We clarified that they were there to help ME, not her. Then she happily accepted help, and doesn’t seem to realize that they only do her laundry, clean her room, change her sheets, prepare her food, etc…
Do a google search for care agencies in your area, and call around. The legwork might be worth it. 24 hour care is extremely expensive, but a private agency near me quoted that if we required 24 hour care, we only pay for 12 hours. It totally depends on the company, so call around.
You know Shirley that 24/7 care does not mean that you need an aide for 24hrs if you are there. You may only need one to help him with bathing. Doing the hard work. Give you some time for yourself. Is husband able to put weight on his foot. If so, then he can do things for himself like going to the toilet? Once he is down for the night, do you need an aide?
Point out to Hubby Dear that he might notice the same caregiver is not there 24/7 but there are instead shifts of caregivers. If you get rid of the caregivers, then YOU are on duty 24/7 with no breaks or days off. Ask him if he thinks you're super human, because if you are, you're an amazing specimen indeed.
If you feel capable of helping him for part of the day, then cut back on caregiver hours, but as others have said the caregivers aren't for him directly -- they're there to take a shift or two over so YOU can get some rest.
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I will reach out to you, however and tell you that $26 an hour is about the going rate for 'help' esp if you have gotten someone from an agency.
I think your husband does not really get a vote in this. He probably doesn't want anyone but you caring for him, right? And you are exhausted & depressed. Just getting him upright and situated in the walker is a daunting task.
The question here is who does need the caregivers? Is your husband self caring other than needing his walker? Are you in need of the help? If so then I think you need to tell your husband that it is YOU who needs help in caring for all of his needs, and YOU therefore will decide how long you need caregivers. If you are getting charged 26.00 an hour that is about 4.00 less than what would be a norm. I think expecting to pay this for 24 hours of care will, unless you are quite wealthy indeed, rob you of money that will be needed badly in the future. Have you considered whether or not your husband's care can now be done at home rather than in facility? Is he expected to get a lot better and need less care? There are so many things here involving your husband's current needs, your own current needs, the prognosis, that I think none of us can make even a wild guess at what is best. I am hoping you have family or social worker involved to the extent you can discuss a way forward with your husband. Best of luck to you.
Do a google search for care agencies in your area, and call around. The legwork might be worth it. 24 hour care is extremely expensive, but a private agency near me quoted that if we required 24 hour care, we only pay for 12 hours. It totally depends on the company, so call around.
If you feel capable of helping him for part of the day, then cut back on caregiver hours, but as others have said the caregivers aren't for him directly -- they're there to take a shift or two over so YOU can get some rest.
I will reach out to you, however and tell you that $26 an hour is about the going rate for 'help' esp if you have gotten someone from an agency.
I think your husband does not really get a vote in this. He probably doesn't want anyone but you caring for him, right? And you are exhausted & depressed. Just getting him upright and situated in the walker is a daunting task.
Have you considered whether or not your husband's care can now be done at home rather than in facility? Is he expected to get a lot better and need less care?
There are so many things here involving your husband's current needs, your own current needs, the prognosis, that I think none of us can make even a wild guess at what is best. I am hoping you have family or social worker involved to the extent you can discuss a way forward with your husband. Best of luck to you.