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Public outings are more difficult due to outbursts, childish behaviors, staying in away from public adds to agitation, any tips? Feel we are in stage 6....vascular dementia diagnosed over 1 1/2 years ago, possible mixed dementia, symptoms were present some time before was able to get MRI done.

musiclover60: Imho, some medications present auditory and visual hallucinations.
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Thanks for everyone's great feedback. A dr. appt. today lead to being prescribed memantine for him, zoloft, low dose for me, and I am looking into financial plans and possibly facility placement. Love and prayers to all.
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It might be easier to take him for outings that might be "lower stress" for him: less people, not a lot of noise or quick movements, mornings or early afternoons when he is rested... Since he has agitation and outbursts, it might be a good idea to have anti-anxiety medication for him. He should take this medication about 1 hour before any outings that might provoke agitation and/or outbursts.
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I have a simple question - with his medical and physical problems and his behaviors which are greatly impacting you, why are you putting up with this instead of placing him? You need a life and some peace and you will never have it with this man.
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Hi, try quietiapina, an antipsicotic that helps with night insomnia and also if taken during the day...
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within days of 68, I get him out almost every day and do something (walk in park, go to church, go in a store, go out to eat, etc. I get a lot of funny looks, oh well. Some recent comments such as "I am going to cut you" bring me greater concern than other people's looks, what anyone else thinks. He loves to cook, but does it less lately, as we try to stay active. The hurtful comments such as "get in the car and leave' to me a couple days ago are tough but usually I attribute that to his illness and heal from it. He is on no meds, tried donazepil some time back, but refuses to take it after it made him sick, constant paranoia, I have no relief, other than a couple hours here and there, thankful for that. He does not realize his cussing, yelling, outbursts, Even in this I am thankful for every day I have him.
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What type of hallucinations?
What type of "childish behavior"
When I took my Husband out he would make noises. If anyone commented on it I would explain he had dementia and this was his way of "coping" (I often kidded that it also made it easy to find him if he wandered away)
I used comments as a teaching moment. Kids were awesome, they get it particularly if you relate it to any of their classmates that have Autism there were some similar traits.
Take him for a walk.
Take him for a drive.
go through the drive thru and get him a milkshake or an ice cream.
Do these things if it is safe for you and safe for him.
I had to stop taking my Husband for a ride or to the store when I realized it was no longer safe for him to try to get into the car. (I found myself lying on the ground pivoting his feet while the caregiver tried to turn him so that he would sit on the seat...that was out last outing😢)
Do what you can with him while you have the chance. Ignore the people that stare. There are cards, the size of a business card that the Alzheimer's Association sells that say something to this effect.. "Please be patient, the person I am with has dementia" You could get something like that printed up if you wished.
almost every family has at some point been touched with a form of dementia Families have also dealt with mental health issues. For some reason there is a "shame" "stigma" "embarrassment" attached and that is a true shame. the same way that Cancer was not spoken about when I was a kid, the way HIV-AIDS was a source of "shame" back in the 70's-80's. for some reason mental health issues still seem to be stuck in the dark ages.
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How old is your husband? Is he currently on any medications for mood or anxiety? Do you have a specific question to ask the forum participants?
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