He cannot remember anything the minute he is told. Recognizes some and not others he has not seen recently. Is on mementine and anti depressant. Many days when he wakes up he feels like he is in a fog and dizzy and sleeps a lot during the day. Is this an expected side affect of dementia. Is unable to carry on social conversation because he cannot remember how or what he was saying. Is there anything else I can do. He is 88 and has always been in great shape and active but all changed in last two years. He is in our home and I retired to take care of him.
So you need to ask yourself at what point you feel you cannot do it by yourself and whether you think with in-home help (expensive) it's do-able. Financially as well as having people coming and going all the time. My aunt takes care of my uncle at home and has 3 sets of caregivers so that she has 24/7 help. It's pretty much depleted all their assets. But she feels strongly that it's his home and she doesn't want to do a nursing home or memory care.
I have to say that the memory care facility we found for dad is going to do a much better job keeping him engaged that I could. Even if he can't talk well or do enough physically, they will get him up and into the community for exercise class or meals and engage him to the extent he can be engaged.
Well not seen others for a while forget their names , the people he say more often or the ones he keeps in his memory when he speaks on the phone more often then here it stays in his current memory.
( make father a photo album please pictures in there and their names and let him view them at least once a week or every day if it’s choice that keeps him calm tell them the names together that helps your smile more you’ll see the
You stated father sleeps all day well he needs to be active you need to put him on a regimen schedule . Example: when you get up in the morning same time do your bathroom duties put on your clothes eat, talk to him while you eat together they love company, when they eat alone they feel isolated no interaction . you could be cleaning the dishes but still talking to him . Get you a transition video or small radio your iPhone or your tablet put on some soft music in the kitchen or the dining room . Music relaxing for all .
And if you can find music that is his liking you would be surprise he’ll be patting his feet clapping his hands and he might even wanna dance with you
when you’re done you should go for a walk that seems to perk them up and if there’s an adult daycare try to get father attended at least for two days out the week to see how he does that’s what I’ve done for my mother she enjoys the walk don’t worry about the conversation the vocabulary comes and go and what I don’t understand look at his facial expression and you can respond by that but don’t be shaking your head yes and say yes because you don’t understand what he saying and then when you tell him no just remember you told him yes. Again I learned that from my mother she was on the gibberish talk and when she laugh, I laughed and then English did come back out but this time they will forget nothing . They think they’re talking to you and you look in them in the face while they talk and you don’t understand.
I had to retire in 2014 was gonna stay one more year of service but when I see mother starting to not able to remember to put on clothes, but yet remember to cooked and cleaned and did laundry I know something was supposedly wrong she always was dressed
possible he needs to see a neurologist has he been there and a genealogist .
just try to stay calm, he will change often and daily . I pray this assist you some
Adult Day Care was $69.00 a day based on income Mother didn’t qualify for waiver .
Get Father assets in order Know if you haven’t started .
Respectfully Brown Sugar
It is a tough journey. I recommend you explore living options and organize your medical and social resources. This forum was very helpful for me, and I became the advocate for my husband. I also had a therapist for myself and the VA team of medical professionals doing care at home for him. They were so helpful.
Good luck 🌹