He says they won’t let him go to the bathroom by himself and put him in a diaper. He is also tired of the wheelchair. Does He have the beginnings of dementia? He sometimes yells at me. Please answer me soon.
Shirley, so sorry you still are going thru all this. But you really need to talk to the Social Worker with any concerns you have. She can be an advocate for you.
I hope you have family. They should be helping u get thru this.
Shirley1946, As has been suggested when you asked this previously you need to talk to the Social Worker at the facility or have a meeting to see how your husband is doing. Let me clarify a few things and hopefully put your mind at ease. "They" will not let him go to the bathroom by himself because they are being careful and they do not want him to fall and hurt himself. A fall could cause him an injury that will keep him from retuning home soon or at all. "They" put him in a "diaper" (I prefer the term incontinent brief for the tab type of pull-up) Those products are easier to change than soiled clothing if the do not get him to the bathroom in time or if he is in fact incontinent at this time. He may have the beginnings of dementia. Often after surgery it takes a while for all the anesthesia and drugs to clear the system and the fact that he is not at home can cause some confusion. If he yells at you try to calm him down. Tell him that things are out of your control. If he wants to come home he has to work at the rehab. If you are living by yourself in a house or apartment/condo you might want to think about moving to Assisted Living so that when he does come home you will have help if and when you need it. Again please talk to the Social Worker or if you have children that can help out talk to them.
You can request a care meeting with his drs and therapist to see how he is progressing. How old is your husband and did he have any issues getting around or otherwise before his foot surgery?
Is he participating in his daily PT? Have you seen any improvement in his being able to put weight on his foot that had the surgery?
If you feel he is showing signs of behavioral or yelling (as you say) that he didn’t have previously then I would request a urine sample to check for a UTI - they are common with incontinence and the use of depends and can cause behavioral type issues that could further delay his rehabilitation. I would also review his medication list if he is on any medication. Go right to the nurses station and ask to speak with someone.
If you feel they are not providing the care and therapy needed for him to progress then you should request a care plan Immediately (even request or go there and meet with his therapy team while you wait for the care meeting).
Any other info would help - if you feel like they are not giving him enough therapy or do you feel he is participating enough etc. You mention mild dementia (is this a confirmed diagnosis or are you seeing changes in him since the surgeries and going to rehab)?
Ask his surgeon or nursing home doctor. They decide when someone gets to go home. If he is non weight bearing, he will not be allowed to go to bathroom. They will keep in disposable underwear, possibly the tab kind that are easier to change in bed. When my dad was in rehab following ankle surgery, he spent about 4 months in rehab.
OuterBanks74, Shirley1946 has posted a version of this same question at least 6 times. She never responds or indicates she is working with the facility directly. One forum participant has been trying to talk to her about communicating with the social worker at her husband's rehab. She is obviously having her own cognitive/memory issues.
But you really need to talk to the Social Worker with any concerns you have. She can be an advocate for you.
I hope you have family. They should be helping u get thru this.
As has been suggested when you asked this previously you need to talk to the Social Worker at the facility or have a meeting to see how your husband is doing.
Let me clarify a few things and hopefully put your mind at ease.
"They" will not let him go to the bathroom by himself because they are being careful and they do not want him to fall and hurt himself. A fall could cause him an injury that will keep him from retuning home soon or at all.
"They" put him in a "diaper" (I prefer the term incontinent brief for the tab type of pull-up) Those products are easier to change than soiled clothing if the do not get him to the bathroom in time or if he is in fact incontinent at this time.
He may have the beginnings of dementia. Often after surgery it takes a while for all the anesthesia and drugs to clear the system and the fact that he is not at home can cause some confusion.
If he yells at you try to calm him down. Tell him that things are out of your control. If he wants to come home he has to work at the rehab.
If you are living by yourself in a house or apartment/condo you might want to think about moving to Assisted Living so that when he does come home you will have help if and when you need it.
Again please talk to the Social Worker or if you have children that can help out talk to them.
Is he participating in his daily PT? Have you seen any improvement in his being able to put weight on his foot that had the surgery?
If you feel he is showing signs of behavioral or yelling (as you say) that he didn’t have previously then I would request a urine sample to check for a UTI - they are common with incontinence and the use of depends and can cause behavioral type issues that could further delay his rehabilitation. I would also review his medication list if he is on any medication. Go right to the nurses station and ask to speak with someone.
If you feel they are not providing the care and therapy needed for him to progress then you should request a care plan Immediately (even request or go there and meet with his therapy team while you wait for the care meeting).
Any other info would help - if you feel like they are not giving him enough therapy or do you feel he is participating enough etc. You mention mild dementia (is this a confirmed diagnosis or are you seeing changes in him since the surgeries and going to rehab)?