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Alzheimer's for 12 years? That is a very long road you have traveled.

You have to stop what you are doing (trying to "help" stop him falling and get him placed where he can be supervised by a staff. You simply cannot gamble with falls. You cannot predict them, you can't stop them, and you surely should NOT be risking them with him! What if he grabs you and pulls you down with him and you break a hip, or hit your head?

Just because one facility sucked, doesn't mean they all do. If you go first, who will take care of him? He will be put in a facility anyway. Find the perfect one, you know what to look for now.
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Memory care quality varies. Some are just not good overall. Some are good for certain dementia patients but not others, since forms of dementia vary. I have experience with a terrible place, an awful place, and two excellent places. So please keep don't let one bad experience discourage you if you find that placement is necessary.
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No, you can not help. Do not attempt to pick him up when he falls. And don't try and hold on to him when he is walking; you both could go down. You can call 911 for a lift-assist.
The only way to prevent falls is to insist he use a wheelchair. If he can't propel himself, then you push him in the chair. He is at most risk trying to get on or off the toilet! If he's weak and can't stand, he'll go down, and there are a lot of hard surfaces to fall against! Try a portable (on wheels) commode chair next to the bed, or even in the living room, where a fall won't cause as much damage. Wide open space, soft furniture, and soft floor.

If he falls again and gets hurt, it's time to go to the hospital, and do not bring him back home again! Have him transferred to a skilled nursing facility.
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Find another memory care home. The one my mom is in is great. They are always checking on mom and the other residents. Not all memory care homes are the same. You cannot stop falls. They will keep happening. For your own safety as well as his find another facility for him.
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TiredandTrying Feb 11, 2026
Any chance you could share the facility?
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Need rails in hallways and grab bars in showers and bathtubs. Should have enough clearance all the way through the house or apartment from the entrance to each bathroom, bedroom, TV room, dining area and kitchen, to the garage or driveway for a wheelchair, scooter, or rollator. Need little ramps for wherever there is a step. May need grab bars on the potty seat too. Head protectors help too.
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I had him in memory care for 3 months and it was awful. He was not taken care of at all. I was there daily and they never even checked on him. This was a high rated expensive and specialized memory care. Ha. Never again I have him back home with me. I take better care of him than anyone could but I have to find ways to stop the falls. Anyone have answers or suggestions for that?
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lealonnie1 Feb 4, 2026
There is no way to stop falls in elders. Hire in home help, that's my best suggestion.
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Hire in home help or place him in Memory Care Assisted Living. It's time.

Good luck.
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