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"Multiple reasons can exist in the same space, but in fact the young ones and even the millenials just wish the boomers would die off before the elder spends their inheritance on an atria or sunrise."
I am not sure I understand this comment. Are you saying I owe my money to my children? I owe nothing to my children. They received love and support from me. They got good educations and have good paying jobs where they can support themselves. I am a boomer, daughters Gen X and Xennial generation.
I was born 1949, an early boomer. My Dad worked as a blue collared worker and Mom a SAHM. There was 4 of us, all boomers, 1949 to 1960. We all worked for everything we have. Nothing was given to us. We put our kids thru college. We have babysat their kids, and we have done for other people. No one gave us anything. And thank god, all our children are on their own. Not asking anything from us because they were taught independence. I and my husband worked for what we have. I deserve to spend what I have on what I want.
There was a Reddit story the other day about being involved with grands where a person commented thats why Boomers are hated. Why? Because we worked our whole lives and now we are retired we don't want to babysit our grands? And for free. I paid my Mom to babysit and when my daughter got old enough, I paid for her to go to daycare. My MIL never babysat her granddaughter. Really had nothing to do with her. No, I did not expect it because I didn't have kids for her or my Mom. I had them for me and they were my responsibility. Our parents raised their kids. Their involvement with mine wasvup to them.
I did help my daughter who was a single mother. I watched her son why she went to Nursing school, meaning I had to quit a job. I knew that she would need a good foundation to succeed. That she has done.
Baby boomers go from 1946 to 1964. The earlier boomers were coming out from 2 wars. There was some prosperty but the later boomers were born when women started returning to work. These boomers tended to be spoiled. So when you talk about boomers its 2 different generations.
This poor poster asked a question and you just jumped on her. The economy has been hard on everyone. You try living on SS at 75 with earnings based on wages 45 years ago. Not everyone was " well off" so they could save money. Life happens and money is used up. As they say "try walking in someone elses shoes".
I have no idea if this is even a possibility , however , if you have a Mom and Pop appliance store near you , perhaps they know of some repair people who give discounts to seniors .
Perhaps, way. But there aren’t too many moms and pops now and whoever it is will be offering a small one if any.
Meals on wheels is being cut.Social Security phone hours are as well. It’s not like older ppl can expect the kind of charity that society routinely provides with adopting animals even.
One of the biggest foibles that seniors do is assuming there’s gonna be young fit guys to help an old person out. My dh went through this for years being a blue collar person who the “family friends”—ie his parents friends—would call for free help. These days said youth are not even available. Either is he.
The hate toward boomers is real and palpable on Twitter. We can expect to reliably lose on every front.
Peggy, you are spot on. The age discrimination is real and disgusting.
These young people are slated to become the richest generation from inheritance and can't wait for us to die.
I recommend that older people give their money to charity if their young relatives have this entitled attitude. Teach them a lesson on respect and entitlement.
I'm not in or close to your area, but there may be a program through county or city senior services that helps low-income seniors with minor household repair issues. The one in our Pacific NW location is income based, but the cut-off point is fairly generous. Worth checking out. . .
Don't bet on it. There are people that help others just because they can. I am sure this contractor would have helped my Mom if she was not a member because he and the man who helped him, are good people. I believe what goes around comes around. You do good, it comes back to you.
I admit, there are entitled people in this world. I worked a job I saw it every day. Then there was this one mother, out of 100 families, who cried because someone adopted her kids for Christmas. She could not believe someone had done this for her kids. She had a bad year. Her husband had left her and the kids and money was tight. Sometimes people just need a hands up and they are OK. Just help to get them over that hump. That mother did not return. Guess the next year was better.
For 10 people you help, 9 might take advantage, but you have the satisfaction that you helped that one person get over that hump. Maybe Rubio just needs to get over that hump.
"Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.”
My response to Peggy Sue was deleted when her first response was. So I will repeat what I wrote.
My Mom belonged and was involved in her church. The cost of staying in her house was cheaper than downsizing to an apt since the house was paid off. Her house was over 100 years old. So no sub-flooring. The floors, wood slats, were the floors. One section had rotted and needed repair. I am sure when she talked to a member of the Church, who was a contractor, about the problem she was willing to pay for the repair. He and another member of the Church came and fixed the problem and did not charge my Mom a cent. There are good people in this world.
If your on FB, there is usually someone in town who has an information page. If not just post Does anyone know how to repair a frig? There is also Nextdoor.com that you can join. Ask your question there. Sometimes a person may not be certified but they know enough to fix appliances. I have a future SIL, contractor, that says he will do anything for me for a loaf of banana bread. I am a baker.
Just a thought, call Habitat for Humanity. See if you can get help there. Please update us.
Your mom was a longstanding member. The church knew her and vice versa way before her floors needed to be redone. They nor anyone else is not offering literally any old person who calls around wanting free labor.
Rubio1, welcome to the forum. No matter where one lives, it will be difficult to find tradesmen who will give a discount or do work for free. They are in the business to earn an income. You can check with your local senior center or your church (if you belong) to see what is available.
If you own your own home, repairs can pop up without warning, as one knows. One has to be ready, and budget for such expenses. If you are finding budgeting for such repairs/replacements isn't durable, time to see what monthly expenses can be eliminated and/or slimmed down.
I remember back when my parent's dishwasher stopped working. They could easily afford a new one, but since it wasn't in Mom's budget book, they had to wait. So they hand washed dishes, and since the hot water felt good on Mom's (she was in her 80's) stiff hands, they never did replace that old dishwasher :)
I don’t know why admin killed my comments or Joann’s when clearly these requests for free or discounted help come across regularly.
My dh has the worn leather hands of a lifetime blue collar worker. And as such, he nor I would ever even think that some magical nonprofit or church would miraculously show up with free labor should he be unable to do it. He knows what it takes.
If a homeowner is in the position where she cannot afford maintenance, perhaps it is time to move to a community where that’s not a concern. But to expect free just because you’re old or have issues will likely not happen unless you have been a longtime or prolific donor.
Agreed. I understand financial hardships, especially for seniors. I’m all for helping others.
Just seems unrealistic of people to think that they can get house repairs, lift chairs, beds, lawn care, appliances, house cleaning, or in-home care for cheap or free.
Your local Council of Gov or Area Agency on Aging would know if there are any services available in your area. If you and DH are in harm’s way, please call APS, adult protective services for your area.
Call your local council on aging and ask if they have recommendations for your area. We are only a bunch of caregivers from around the world. We would have no idea what is available to you where you live.
Wishing you good luck on your search. Consider asking on your NextDoor apps if you have any; your local neighbors are your best bet for what's around you that worked for THEM.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I am not sure I understand this comment. Are you saying I owe my money to my children? I owe nothing to my children. They received love and support from me. They got good educations and have good paying jobs where they can support themselves. I am a boomer, daughters Gen X and Xennial generation.
I was born 1949, an early boomer. My Dad worked as a blue collared worker and Mom a SAHM. There was 4 of us, all boomers, 1949 to 1960. We all worked for everything we have. Nothing was given to us. We put our kids thru college. We have babysat their kids, and we have done for other people. No one gave us anything. And thank god, all our children are on their own. Not asking anything from us because they were taught independence. I and my husband worked for what we have. I deserve to spend what I have on what I want.
There was a Reddit story the other day about being involved with grands where a person commented thats why Boomers are hated. Why? Because we worked our whole lives and now we are retired we don't want to babysit our grands? And for free. I paid my Mom to babysit and when my daughter got old enough, I paid for her to go to daycare. My MIL never babysat her granddaughter. Really had nothing to do with her. No, I did not expect it because I didn't have kids for her or my Mom. I had them for me and they were my responsibility. Our parents raised their kids. Their involvement with mine wasvup to them.
I did help my daughter who was a single mother. I watched her son why she went to Nursing school, meaning I had to quit a job. I knew that she would need a good foundation to succeed. That she has done.
Baby boomers go from 1946 to 1964. The earlier boomers were coming out from 2 wars. There was some prosperty but the later boomers were born when women started returning to work. These boomers tended to be spoiled. So when you talk about boomers its 2 different generations.
This poor poster asked a question and you just jumped on her. The economy has been hard on everyone. You try living on SS at 75 with earnings based on wages 45 years ago. Not everyone was " well off" so they could save money. Life happens and money is used up. As they say "try walking in someone elses shoes".
however , if you have a Mom and Pop appliance store near you , perhaps they know of some repair people who give discounts to seniors .
Meals on wheels is being cut.Social Security phone hours are as well. It’s not like older ppl can expect the kind of charity that society routinely provides with adopting animals even.
One of the biggest foibles that seniors do is assuming there’s gonna be young fit guys to help an old person out. My dh went through this for years being a blue collar person who the “family friends”—ie his parents friends—would call for free help. These days said youth are not even available. Either is he.
The hate toward boomers is real and palpable on Twitter. We can expect to reliably lose on every front.
These young people are slated to become the richest generation from inheritance and can't wait for us to die.
I recommend that older people give their money to charity if their young relatives have this entitled attitude. Teach them a lesson on respect and entitlement.
Don't bet on it. There are people that help others just because they can. I am sure this contractor would have helped my Mom if she was not a member because he and the man who helped him, are good people. I believe what goes around comes around. You do good, it comes back to you.
I admit, there are entitled people in this world. I worked a job I saw it every day. Then there was this one mother, out of 100 families, who cried because someone adopted her kids for Christmas. She could not believe someone had done this for her kids. She had a bad year. Her husband had left her and the kids and money was tight. Sometimes people just need a hands up and they are OK. Just help to get them over that hump. That mother did not return. Guess the next year was better.
For 10 people you help, 9 might take advantage, but you have the satisfaction that you helped that one person get over that hump. Maybe Rubio just needs to get over that hump.
"Be not forgetful to entertain strangers: for thereby some have entertained angels unawares.”
My Mom belonged and was involved in her church. The cost of staying in her house was cheaper than downsizing to an apt since the house was paid off. Her house was over 100 years old. So no sub-flooring. The floors, wood slats, were the floors. One section had rotted and needed repair. I am sure when she talked to a member of the Church, who was a contractor, about the problem she was willing to pay for the repair. He and another member of the Church came and fixed the problem and did not charge my Mom a cent. There are good people in this world.
If your on FB, there is usually someone in town who has an information page. If not just post Does anyone know how to repair a frig? There is also Nextdoor.com that you can join. Ask your question there. Sometimes a person may not be certified but they know enough to fix appliances. I have a future SIL, contractor, that says he will do anything for me for a loaf of banana bread. I am a baker.
Just a thought, call Habitat for Humanity. See if you can get help there. Please update us.
If you own your own home, repairs can pop up without warning, as one knows. One has to be ready, and budget for such expenses. If you are finding budgeting for such repairs/replacements isn't durable, time to see what monthly expenses can be eliminated and/or slimmed down.
I remember back when my parent's dishwasher stopped working. They could easily afford a new one, but since it wasn't in Mom's budget book, they had to wait. So they hand washed dishes, and since the hot water felt good on Mom's (she was in her 80's) stiff hands, they never did replace that old dishwasher :)
My dh has the worn leather hands of a lifetime blue collar worker. And as such, he nor I would ever even think that some magical nonprofit or church would miraculously show up with free labor should he be unable to do it. He knows what it takes.
If a homeowner is in the position where she cannot afford maintenance, perhaps it is time to move to a community where that’s not a concern. But to expect free just because you’re old or have issues will likely not happen unless you have been a longtime or prolific donor.
Just seems unrealistic of people to think that they can get house repairs, lift chairs, beds, lawn care, appliances, house cleaning, or in-home care for cheap or free.
If you call around to appliance repair service companies in your area and ask about senior discounts, you'll probably find a few that offer discounts.
Good luck!
We are only a bunch of caregivers from around the world. We would have no idea what is available to you where you live.
Wishing you good luck on your search.
Consider asking on your NextDoor apps if you have any; your local neighbors are your best bet for what's around you that worked for THEM.