My grandmother is in a terrible nursing home. We have tried twice now to move her closer to family and in a better home. What can we do? - AgingCare.com

My grandmother is in a terrible nursing home. We have tried twice now to move her closer to family and in a better home. What can we do?

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She is on Medicaid. Both time she has made it to the top of the list at a different home. The home she is in makes it sound like she is horrible. Stuff they never discuss with us until we try to move her. The new home turns her away. She has Alzheimer’s. She is wheel chair bound and they keep her pretty doped up. They recently let us move her to another home owned by them. Which turned out to be worse than their other home. She is so far from family. It’s an hour and a half one way. What can we do?

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Thank you for all the advice. I will look into a parish nurse.
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We have all given you some good suggestions and I am sorry that you are having such problems with the nursing homes in Michigan. Unfortunately I would need to read your grandmother's medical records to give you better and more appropriate suggestions.

Michigan has a Faith Community Nurse or Parish Nurse organization (which is connected with local churches and synagogues) that is very active. Maybe you could contact a Parish Nurse near your Grandmother's nursing home and ask her/him for suggestions. Someone who can put their eyes on the situation. Google "Parish Nurse - Michigan" and see what happens.
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I wish I could put pics up. I would show you how bad this place is. It wouldn’t bother me so much if she was getting good care. Last week I visited and the air wasn’t working. It was so hot and my grandma had food in her hair. Her face was dirty and her finger nails are always black. We are nice to the people and we don’t complain because we are afraid she will get back lash. The STNAs are not friendly toward us or the patients. It should be a crime to treat our old people like this. I just want to get her into a decent place that is close to me and my sister. I believe the more visits the better the care.
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Ok I got a little more information. The NH my Grandma is in is a full medicaid NH. They don’t have a waiting list. We were able to her in there right away and we were able to get her in the other one right away. The place is called Magnum care. She is currently in the Monroe Mich one. The last home was ready to take her even after meeting her, until they went in and met with Magnum care they came out and said she wasn’t a good fit. The first home we had lined up said they couldn’t take her because she was a wanderer, and had sundowners, and like I said before. A week later they took her out of the memory care unit and put her in the regular care unit. I do believe they don’t want to let her go, and they are making it impossible for us to move her. The places we were trying to move her to have waiting list and only have so many Medicaid beds.
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I must admit, Schoch, that I don't like the sound of what this care home group has been up to. I'm not quick to assume the worst but they do seem very keen to hang on to your grandmother's fees, hm.

Having said that, there are excellent reasons *not* to move a person with Alzheimer's Disease unless you absolutely have to. Changes in their environment can upset them a lot, and that can have knock-on effects on their physical wellbeing too.

If the standards of the NH are as bad as you describe, and they do sound bad no matter how many allowances one tries to make, then consider using your state's formal complaints procedure. And yes, visit a lot more.

I wouldn't spend a lot of time going over previous attempts to break her out. It's history, it's gone. Better to focus on where you go from here: whether that's working with the current NH on improving her care and her condition, or starting from scratch to find a better facility and working *closely* with them to get her moved.
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I would speak with BOTH facilities. As was said, you need documentation. Who said what about whatever Grandma did or how she acted to get her refused admittance. Is it behavior? Is it financial? Is it insurance? You need to see their records and not take their word for it. Come with your own documentation of when Grandma was denied and what was given as the reason.
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I’m going to go to her next meeting. Should I asked them why she was refused by the other 2 homes? Will they have that information? Or should I talk to the other NH? It’s been about a year since we tried to move her last. Any other advice would be appreciated.
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My Mom and Aunt are her POA. She was put into the first home and it was a hurry up and find a place situation. She was accepted by a home after being on their waiting list for about a year. Everything was good until the new NH met with the old NH. They told them she had sun downers and that she’s combative. The new NH turned her down. The next week they moved my Grandma out of the memory care unit into the regular unit. We couldn’t understand why if she was sundowners and all that. The second time we found a home. It was the same thing. They said something about her smearing feces on the wall. We were never told that and have never seen her do anything like that. The reason I say she’s doped up is because she used to stroll around aimlessly in her wheel chair and she doesn’t do that now. Anyways my Mom and Aunt do go to the meetings and we do visit her every week. It’s just not enough. In my opinion. Maybe we need to go get her records and take them to NH we are interested in and see if they are equipped to take her. The home she is in now is filthy she is filthy. We haven’t tried moving her from this place yet. I think my Mom and Aunt gave up. I’m just not ready to give up yet. If she were closer to me I would visit her everyday. She has 12 kids and 47 grandkids. Only 5 of us visit her.
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All four of us are telling you the same thing, Schoch, and that is that someone from your family needs to do some research and find out what’s going on. Facilities do not keep patients as “prisoners” as you’ve stated on other threads, especially when they claim those patients are difficult . They ask family to remove them. There are enough waiting lists for Medicaid beds that there’s no way they’d do that.

As we’ve said, you need to go to Grandma’s facility personally. Go calmly and with a firm idea of the information you need. Do not make unfounded accusations that you can’t back up with documentation. And, don’t accept any information from them that they can’t back up with documents of their own. Facilities run on paperwork and red tape. As DeeAnna said, keep us updated.
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Ahmijoy makes some excellent points about the Care Conference meetings and about the medications. Who is your Grandmother’s Durable-POA and/or POA for Healthcare? Has that person requested any medication or medical records from either nursing home?

Go to Medicare’s Nursing Home Compare website and look up the nursing homes that your Grandmother has been in and also look for a list of other nursing homes close to where you live.

www.medicare.gov/nursinghomecompare/search.html?

The Nursing Home Compare has detailed information about every Medicare- and Medicaid- certified nursing home in the country. The information does not tell you all that you need to know but you can find out whether the nursing home had some problems that were severe enough to warrant a warning by the state and federal government.

Since your grandmother has Alzheimer’s, then she most likely needs to be in a Memory Care Unit. Look for nursing homes that have this type of nursing units. There are two types: locked and monitored (the door to the unit is unlocked but the resident or their wheelchair wears a monitoring device {WanderGuard} that activates an alarm or causes the door to the Memory Care Unit to close if the resident gets too close to the door.

Let us know how your search for a new nursing home is going. God Bless.
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