She was sent to the ER in October and the doctor told me how bad she was over the phone. I told him the people she lived with were not responsible people and care only about themselves. I asked him to call the elderly abuse hotline if he thought that they were responsible for her condition. He did.
She was assigned a caseworker, Wendy. Wendy has done nothing with my aunts and uncle. They are still in my grandma's house and never do anything for my grandma. She now is in a nursing home and they are treating her just as poorly as she was being treated at home. My cousin came to visit her later February and she could smell that our grandma had messed herself and asked if someone could change her. They told her it was the person next to her. After several attempts to get that addressed in an hour and a half time span my grandma was still unchanged. If that’s the care she gets with visitors I don’t want to imagine how it is when we aren’t there.
Not a week later she was sent to the ER and they said she had a diaper and a pair of depends on! The situation there scares me.
We found her a place much better and closer to my cousin. She would have visitors almost daily there. We found her a room and had them call the location we are currently dealing with. The current location denied the request to have her transferred. Then Wendy told my brother we can’t transfer her without going through her. She also told the hospital to not let her have family visitors, which she later denied when confronted. My brother had an armed security guard called on him when he tried to check on her though so that’s not true.
Does my my grandma have rights to leave if she wants to? I thought that if she was in the right mind set, and she is, that she had the right to leave if she wanted. She has a g-tube, that’s only used for medication and is not hooked up to anything and COPD. The last ER doctor gave her a diagnosis of dementia. I believed that was because of her pneumonia and flu though. She’s back to remembering who everyone is and where she is. She is not happy and I’m really concerned about her safety. Does Wendy have the right to stop her transfer to another location?
Is there something I can do to get her out of there and into a safer and cleaner location? Would getting a medical POA help or would I need a general POA to deal with legal matters for her? I talked to a lawyer and with her still knowing what she wants and what’s going on he said guardianship would be a bad choice. I just need some help trying to do what’s right.