I need help, they come without calling, I have no address for either of them, they seem to want to take her to places like BJ'S, she doesnt remember them, and she hasn't seen them since her son died in 2018, acting like they are concerned, don't mind them visiting but they seem to only want to remove her from the home, what can I do, I'm responsible for her, Help!
I too would wonder what they are up to. Do they think brother left his estranged wife money? I gather that they were never close so why all of a sudden are they showing up unannounced.
If they were her sisters would be one thing but they really are not related so have no say I feel. Would your friend really have wanted them around? I feel that keeping them away is in the best interest of your friend. If your home, you definitely have the authority to keep them out. Keep the doors locked so they can not just walk in. If you need to open the door, make sure there's a storm door between u that's locked. Tell them "Sorry, this is not a good time. Please call before you come over." Then close the door.
I think they want her out of the house because they want to get her to assign POA to them. Was the house owned by friend and her estranged husband? Maybe they think they are due his half since her son is gone.
In your profile you also said one of the sisters-in-law tried to push her way into the house, which is alarming, but I sense there is a long history that is causing these problems. So, if you think your friend is being endangered or even threatened by the sisters-in-law, I suggest you call adult protective services (APS) to find out if they are able to further investigate the situation and provide you some assistance before things get completely out-of-hand.
Kudos to you for providing your friend's care during this hard time. Best wishes to both of you.
If she doesn't want them around, she needs to change her POA. She
has to be able to comprehend what she is signing and they should be notified in writing that they are no longer POA.
No, you do not have to let them take her. However, her wishes should be honored in any situation that doesn't endanger her and gives her some enrichment activities.