As I am the only daughter helping Mom,I need some help,but since my fiance moved in,she thinks she is needing somewhere else to live. Mom hasn't been treated badly or suggested she move. 98 in July and I've promised her to do my best to have her with us. Even when the repair on her home is finished,she won't be alone.
For instance, even though hospice and palliative care aren’t the same thing, the doctors complete an internal medicine residency and then a Hospice and Palliative Care fellowship.
So people get them confused sometimes.
You can't get Hospice just because your 98. You must be terminal, doctor must think you only have 6 months to live. Its end of life care for those who will die from an ailment they have. Such as congestive heart failure in the last stage. Lung and liver desease in the last stages. Terminal cancer, etc. Hospice only provides an aide for bathing maybe 2x a week. A nurse 1x a week to check vitals and train family on how to give meds provided to keep the client comfortable.
What are you looking for? Someone to be with Mom while you work? Unless Mom qualifies for in home Medicaid, that needs to be paid by her or you.
Call your office of Aging for resources.
If mom wants to move, let her.
Maybe your Mom decided she needs to move out in order to give you a chance to be newlyweds without needing to take care of her . If so , Mom is a wise woman .
Perhaps she would like to tour some assisted living communities .
Here's what I do understand: Your mom is 97 years old and will turn 98 in July.
Your mom's home is being repaired.
Your fiance lives with you.
You're promised your mom to do your best to have her with you.
What's unclear:
Is your mom living with you now?
How is your mom doing physically and mentally?
How much care does your mom need with activities of daily living (e.g., eating, going to the bathroom, getting dressed)?