He wont listen to my mother or myself, and insists that the kids are rude and disrespectful to him. And while the kids do try they often lose their tempers with him and yell at him, but it's only after he he treats them terribly, yelling, name calling and nagging them to do everything the way he thinks it should be done. I dont let them get away with behaving like that, but at the same time Dad refuses to see how he is causing it. He is never at fault, he never starts anything, and is a victim in his own mind. I am honestly at my wits end. Dad yells and loosed his temper with everyone, but the minute we say something we are the bad guys. Pls help!!
Dad had a stroke 2 years ago, he has recently been diagnosed with stage 2 copd and emphysema.
He even gets angry and frustrated with my mom who has been bed ridden for the last 5 years. Like God forbid he need to fix her a meal or get her a drink, and what's worse of anyone breathes, moves or blinks to loudly whole he naps.
We have had several big fights about this issue. He never apologizes for his part and wont admit calling a 13 year old a jerk, and whiner and lazy is wrong. Just that the kid got what he deserved.